Good morning,<p>Well not really, My H's uncle died and the funeral home receiving of friends is tonight. This man was also my uncle for 17 years and he loved me as well as I loved him. My H's selfishness took away not only my marriage but my extended family. There were many things about being part of his family that I really enjoyed and I will miss them alot. <p>What makes me mad is the fact that the OW will be with my H at the funeral home tonight and he wanted to know when I was coming so he could be gone then. What a jerk. This whore never even met the Uncle and we are not divorced yet. I refuse to accomdate his insecurties by tip-toeing around. I have a right to be there, whenever I want to be there. He just doesn't have even sense to know when it is inappropriate to flaunt this whore around. <p>He took away my marriage but he did not make me stop caring for his grandmother. This was the 3rd child she buried and nothing is going to stop me from paying my respects. <p>Also his mother called me with the plans and was gripping and complaining about how she had to do everything, cook for all the people, clean up grandma's house, etc... I wanted to tell her that if her son wasn't such a self-centered SOB, I would have been there to help her. <p>Sorry, just needed to vent. It makes me so mad and sad that I can't greive for someone I loved dearly without having to worry about making my H feel uncomfortable. Well it's his decision to have both his wife and live-in girlfriend at the same event, not mine. He is so tacky......<p>PP

I am so sorry for your loss. You certainly may greive for him. He was a part of your life, and you love him. That is what is important. <p>Don't think you are the only one who will notice H's lack of tact. <p>Elizabeth

Well I ended up not going to the funeral home. I feel bad for the family but the last thing they needed was the stress of thier son's wife and girlfriend in the same room.<p>However, H did call last night to let me know how it went. Funny observation..... he doesn't want me in his life but he feels compelled to let me know what is happening so I can be a part of it. Do I think this was out of concern for my feelings, hell no. I think he still wants me to be part of his everyday life and that he is not willing to accept that I've moved on. He didn't want me there because she was there but he still wanted to share the event with me in some way. <p>Well reality is coming. I'm changing the locks this weekend.....