Hello everyone!<p>Sorry for the delayed post, but I want everyone to know that despite all the craziness going on, God has blessed me with a beautiful new little baby girl.<p>9 lbs 4.4 ounces(induced at 38 1/2 weeks) and 20 3/4 inches. <p>Thanks to everyone's prayers, it was the quickest, easiest delivery and the best recovery(so far) than the past three that I've had.<p>God is good. She is beautiful, healthy, and the best baby. I'm in heaven, and so are her brothers.<p>For those of you who were tuned in to the saga of WH or no WH in the delivery room, this is what happened..........<p>WH wanted me to make the doctor change the induction time, just so he could drop our other kids off at school and then be there for the delivery. Well, someone else could have dropped off the kids, and my doctor doesn't normally do inductions at the time my WH wanted, so I told WH to just let someone else drop off the kids, but he didn't want to do that. (An excuse not to be there?) Anyway, he didn't want to discuss being in the delivery room with me at all - even though he said he wanted to be there, but when I wanted to discuss what his role would be and basically why he wanted to be there, he just shut down and made excuses like I didn't want him there anyway so it wasn't worth discussing. So for some reason he really didn't want to be there, but just couldn't say it.<p>And now the rest of the story...........<p>Tuesday before I went in, I was going to spend the night with my other children since I was going to be in the hospital for a few days. But then I thought it would be easier on my parents, who were bringing me to the hospital, and easier on WH, to let them spend the night with him, since he had to take them to school in AM. BUT only if WH was going to actually be home that night. If he wasn't, then I wanted to spend the extra time with the kids.<p>Well, WH lied to me and my father and said he would be home Tues. pm and to drop off kids - and we did. WH's sister was there but WH wasn't and WH's sister said WH had just run out to do some errands...... Well, on Wed. at the hospital, WH says in talking to his brother, that he was working all night long and of course never cam home until the next morning.<p>WH did make it to the hospital on Wed. right after the baby was born, but later than he should have given he was only going to drop off the kids. So I don't know where he was in between dropping them off and coming to the hospital. The baby came really fast, but he still could have been there - but wasn't.........<p>Then Thursday, the private process server was trying to serve him at his parents house, but WH was so paranoid that he had his sister answer the door and tell her(good looking female process server) that WH wasn't there and WH called the police. WH called and accused me of hiring a private detective to stalk him.<p>Today(Fri.) my WH was supposed to bring our 3 year old(who missess his mommy tremendously) to spend the night with me, and to let my other boys see the baby, and then WH was going to bring the boys over Sat. morn, to spend time with their new sister and me.<p>Well....because WH thinks I hired a private detective to "stalk" him, he now won't let me call my boys, he won't let me see my boys, he won't let the 3 year old spend the night, he won't let the boys see their new sister, he won't even tell me when he will let me see the children. He knows I'm on bedrest and can't go anywhere.<p>And he doesn't even express an interest in seeing his precious little baby girl.<p>Sooooooo...... I'm sitting here wondering what my kids are thinking, that they can't see their sister or their mother - I wonder what lies he's telling them. And I'm worried about theor safety because he's slightly paranoid right now.<p>And my WH is trying to force our 3 year old to not want to be with his mom, so that he can have custody of him for a week at a time.<p>Sick, sick, sick. Purposely withholding the children from a woman who just gave birth to his child. And withholding the children from their mother. <p>There are no words..... (Of course I'm sure you all are thinking of plenty right now)<p>This course of action will really hurt him in the divorce proceeding and the kids will get over this eventually. But it breaks my heart for them. How this man can claim to love them is beyond me.<p>So, there is good news - little girl and bad news - big WH. But God is with the kids and working in misterious ways, so I just have to trust. <p>Well, need to go say a few prayers and get some rest - if that's actually possible with a newborn. <p>I'll keep you updated. K

JOY JOY JOY<p>I have plenty of words for that [censored]. <p>I know my 3yo (4 on 3/8) would just have a fit without me for so long. Poor little thing needs his Mommy, soon I'm sure he will be with you.<p>Rest up Mommy, it's gonna be a long night!<p>Elizabeth

Congratulations on your new daughter. Your children will be so excited when they get to meet their new sister. Best of Luck to you.

God is in Control.<p>I am so glad your delivery was quick. You do deserve it. I cant imagine how you feel without seeing the children. Does your stbx have postpartum psychosis. Seems like your emotions are more stabile than his. I hope you can get some rest and enjoy your little baby. <p>Von

Congratulations GG.<p>As for your WH...That man is doing you a favor. Some day you are going to have a decent man to spend your life with.<p>I hope you have a really good lawyer.<p>Take care,<p>ANNA

I have been thinking and praying for you and for your little children, for your WH, too.<p>You are inspirational; rest up and take good care. This, too, shall pass and you will prevail.<p>May God Bless you,<p>jtois

Dear,
congratulations on your baby girl!
Try to not think of that f*** stupid... man and enjoy your time with a baby. She brought you some light in this mess. The boys will surely push their father to come to you and that will be the time! Kids of their age love babies.
Try to have a rest when baby is sleeping. I am so glad you are well.<p>Love

Thank you all so much for the well wishes. I had posted on the GQII board too to make sure everyone learned of the news.<p>I am having a ball with the new little baby - even with my lack of sleep and all.<p>Her brothers just adore her. Her father however, never really askes to see her or has any desire to spend much more time with her than holding her for a few minutes when he visits with the boys.<p>Still having to put up with his issues. He's been his normal wonderful self - Fri. threatened to keep the kids from me until I don't know when. Our youngest is sick, and doctor dad won't let me see him, but will take him out to play with other kids, and I guess get them sick, as well as keep our son sick so recovery will take logner and it will be even longer for him to be aroundme and the baby. He also wants to talk about the financial aspects of the divorce and get ready for the new hearing on April 9th. (Had to get a private process server to serve him because he was evading service - he accused me of hiring a detective agency to "stalk" him.)<p>I keep trying to tell him that I'm recovering from having his child, but that doesn't seem to mean anything to him - and he's a doctor, so he should at least know what I'm going through on a purely academic level. That old fog.........<p>I think I'm just going to have to go through a third party for now, just to keep my sanity.<p>Anyway, he is missing out on the most cutest little thing! She really is a joy for the whole family, and I refuse to take life any faster than one day at a time, so WH will jsut have to stew.<p>I hope that everyone has a great week!<p>Remember to take care of yourselves and try not to let the actions of our WS's drive you to crazy. That's my project for the week.<p>Thanks again for the support! It really does help to know that you're all out there! K

Hi K-<p>I am so sorry this is so late. I was out of town with no access to a computer. You have been on my thoughts so much.<p>Congratulations! I am so happy for you. Trust me, this little girl will always hold a special place in your heart due to the circumstances of her birth. <p>I'm sorry your WH is being such an [censored]. You are right, God will look over you and your children. We don't always understand why he lets bad things happen, yet he always gets us through.<p>I am also sorry to hear how little time your WH is giving your daughter. Mine acted the same way, now at seven months my beautiful, sweet, happy baby will go to anyone, but her father. I swear she has a sixth sense. In the end it will be their loss, but it is so sad.<p>Enjoy that baby and get some rest. You will need it. I hope things get better with your WH, but it sounds like you have a great attitude.<p>You are in my prayers!<p>Take care and God bless,
Kim<p>PS- A quick delivery is yet another thing we have in common. What did quick mean for you? For me it meant 55 min. from the first contraction to delivery- YIKES!

You're doing well. I'm so glad the baby is here and you are safe and well.<p>I'm pleased with how you seem to be doing. Your children must be real blessings to you.<p>I think the third party contact would be a good thing in your case. I know that e-mail is a great thing in dealing with my x. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] It gives me a chance to get it right the first time and to not have to deal with his immediate reaction to anything I say or do. [img]images/icons/rolleyes.gif" border="0[/img] His ISTJ personality and my ENFP personality have made life interesting for years. [img]images/icons/mad.gif" border="0[/img] <p>(Want to know what I loved most when my children were small? Holding them while they slept. I still cuddle them a bit at night when I tuck them in. Lay down beside them and do prayers and a lullaby. And they're 11 and 9.)

Congrats, GIIC!!! I'm so happy your new baby, and her brothers, have such a wonderful woman for their mother.<p>As to their father, well.....I better keep this post somewhat Christian...<p>Anyway, good luck and keep us posted on all that's happening with you.<p>Much Aloha,
Ms.O

You sound so happy and thrilled with your new baby girl! I am so happy for you... do not worry about dad and his attitude.. he is the one missing out... and the more he misses out on.. the more... that he will miss... and you stand to gain more and more with your children... <p>My H is actually starting to show signs of missing the kids... and it sounds like yours is too, the control thing... trying to take them when he can... just to maintain control...<p>I think in a way it is good for you to have a rest from bigger kids... so think of it in that way! Everything will be just fine, and the kids will be thrilled to see their baby sis when they get to, and if upset by delay... who do they have to blame, well dad of course..<p>I am just so happy that you are doing so well, keep it up and get some rest.... sounds like you have a good support system.<p>H

Congratulations! Right now all you need to think of is that beautiful baby girl! Try no to think of that [censored] WH!!!<p>My thoughts and prayers are with you!

Congratulations on your baby girl. After 3 boys this must be a pleasant surprise. Enjoy this little one, enjoy the smell of infancy, enjoy her little newborn cry, this is so great that you are handling yourself so well. Get some rest, new mommy, your little girl needs you. <p>As for the [censored] - being a DR. it is hard to believe that he would treat you like that. He created this wonderful little girl, and he just casts her away. But all WS are [censored]. Mine was and still is to some extent. He wants a divorce and basically is where we are going. He won the battle, I lost, am a failure. <p>You have such a deep love going, and for all your 3 sons to see and hold their little sister, what a picture God created. She has 3 great big brothers, she is going to be spoiled. What did you name her?

GIIC...<p>Congrats on the new baby girl..... oh, how I remember the sweet smell of a new baby.<p>Your PIG (ws) is something else... remember the fog... they are selfish !!!! <p>Take Care.... god bless you and your children...<p>Blessings,
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