Nicole, <p>I was just checking to see if you responded. <p>I am glad you got at least 5 hours of sleep. What a horrible night.<p>What a jerk!<p>Has he said anything else about it?<p>ANNA

I too am sorry Nicole.<p>Joe [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img]<p>[ March 03, 2002: Message edited by: justanotherjoe ]</p>

Hey...<p>I went to match.com a couple of times... just looking to see who would post there and what they had. I never paid the membership.<p>You know what I noticed???? Look at some of these guys and you might see a hand on their shoulder... now I ask myself...."is this their
ex-wife??? I've seen several in my age group do this. I'm thinking my gosh, get a new picture!!<p>Once I was looking at other ads (I can't remember where) and there was this one guy/man/weird-o that even told he was MARRIED and was looking for FUN!!!! What a pig !!! All I can think about now is.... how many of these "great" guys are still married????/<p>I feel very sorry for those who have seen their ex or stbx posting on these sites..... I knew a women and her friend saw her H !!!<p>However, I do know someone who has met someone and they do have a great relationship... and its going on 1 1/2 years now. <p>They say if you do find someone... becareful.... meet in a very public place and let people know when and where you're going.<p>s

Anna, <p>My d said my stbxh posts on one of those date places..so I went in and checked out his post
and I laughed..most of those who posted on that board were college educated..work-a-holics..from reading their posts..and I wondered too how could you know if they were REALLY Single or not???<p>I did a search for men who don't drink..and there was only 1 within the 500 mile radius..I was like dang..I guess thats why they all post here..all the women these men know, see how many 'occassions' they drink...since everyday brings another 'occasion' they tend to stay away from the
'occasional' drinkers...LOL..

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by justanotherjoe:
<strong>LOL!<p>Never mind.<p>As far as hurting the other guys feelings, well if he can't take a little of constructive criticism then I think that he has some serious issues that could torpedo any relationship he gets into in the future. And besides you were only trying to help him maximize his attraction potentiao to the other women in the service that might be interested in him.<p>If he is a man he'll thank you for your input, but if he is a boy then he'll probably send you a nasty message.<p>Joe<p>[ March 02, 2002: Message edited by: justanotherjoe ]</strong><hr></blockquote><p>OHHHHH Golly Joe, You really hit the nail on the head...<p>This came from the guy I tried to help...<p>Anna,<p>why are you looking in the adult personals. It happens to be a great way to meet people who are not just playing around. I've had the
pleasure of meeting many ladies and dating regularly. Your comment on my
picture is a very rude remark, I'd never say anything to you like that and the old saying has a lot of truth...If you don't have anything nice
to say...then don't say anything at all!!!
Your comment is one of a child, how old are you??? Look in the mirror and ask yourself that. HOW OLD AM I ???????? <p>END...<p>Now marking this guy off my list of potential daters...<p>hehe... [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>ANNA

anna, I have a thought, if you use such a service, post a similar nose picture of you, and then only reply to emails politely trying to help you with your picture...then you will have someone who may fit you.<p>btw, can't believe the guys response, definitely one to "throw" back in.....first rule of human relations, run away fast from anyone who does not graciously acknowledge contstructive criticism.

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by sad_n_lonely:
<strong>anna, I have a thought, if you use such a service, post a similar nose picture of you, and then only reply to emails politely trying to help you with your picture...then you will have someone who may fit you.<p>btw, can't believe the guys response, definitely one to "throw" back in.....first rule of human relations, run away fast from anyone who does not graciously acknowledge contstructive criticism.</strong><hr></blockquote><p>SNL,<p>I was headin' for bed but had to post...<p>I have been thinkin' lately....<p>From now on, I should find something to criticize a guy about when I see their profile, then send him an email regarding this...The ones that handle the critisism with grace, I will go out with....hehe... [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>ANNA<p>P.S.
I refuse to post a picture of the upper part of my nose. [img]images/icons/tongue.gif" border="0[/img]<p>[ March 05, 2002: Message edited by: Anna2000 ]</p>

anna, I think you are on to something....seriously, how people handle criticism says an awful lot about them, and is a "probe" you use pretty early in a relationship....actually if you read books written by smart people (in a psychology sense) it good practive to stress relationships in the developing phase and watch the responses closely....that is when the mask slips most, and you get a glimpse of who someone is.<p>so you um... ya know, maybe show up late.... miss calling when expected..... um....do something other than what was expected.... act irritable about something.....argue about something....insist on something they find uncomfortable (but not something real unreasonable or such)....all that kind of stuff, throw em off balance, off their game plan (if they are a player) and see what happens.