As I am reading these posts, and from the info I had read on this site before my husband and I separated, I do think he is/was having an emotional affair. <p>We had both been friends with this girl, she was very clingy and unappreciative of any help we gave her. She had broken up with my husbands friend, had a car accident that totaled her car and moved closer to work which happened to be around the corner from us all in one year. Her mom died when she was 15, and she had been going through alot since that time. But I reached a point where I could no longer feel bad for her and be friends with her when she would give nothing back. Then as my husband and my problems came to the surface last year, she did not want to come around anymore because she didn't feel "I liked her." SO, he started hanging out over her house, going out with her on his day off (we only had one day off together), running to her house to "cool off" after an argument or when he needed to get away. I did accuse him of PA with this girl, but later told him it was not really sex I was afraid of, it was how she seemed to become more important that my needs. Of course, this was just "nagging", and "jealousy" and I was "insecure." Everything she said was gold, and she could put me down and complain about me and that was just fine (heaven forbid if my family or friends ever did that about him!).<p>So, do counselor's cover emotional affairs in marriage counciling? My personal counselor thinks that he has had an affair. But, in our first visit to the marriage counselor, he asked if either of us have had an affair, and my husband continues to deny it.<p>I guess I'm asking for info only to make me stronger. As I have stated in other posts, I have already decided enough was enough. But I was thinking as I read other posts, that along with the emotional and physical abuse he is also not ready to face up to reality of the EA he was/is having with this friend. If I am correct in thinking this is an EA, that just backs up my deciision that much more.
