This may be a silly question, but do any of you think that I am rushing a decision to get a disillusion of our marriage after only 3 weeks of being separated. I realize only I have the answers to what is best for me. I hear some of your stories and stories I've read other places, so I feel that I am not making a hasty decision. I do not want worse bruises physically or to go back in to a depression where I am controlled again, so that is the main reason I have come to my decision.<p>I do not trust anything he says, and as the saying goes actions speak louder than words, so I feel even though he says he thinks he can change, he is not doing anything about an alcohal problem he only admited to me, or the violence problem he claims he admitted to a few people, and rather than fighting to fix the problems in our marriage after separating, he went out and bought a new jeep. We have been going through this for so long, I know the routine, he says he will work on it, and nothing happens. This is our first separation in different residences. We agreed to separate twice before this and stayed in the same house by avoiding each other, doing our own things on days off and sleeping in different rooms. Of course those didn't last long, but nothing changed after we started to act more like a couple again those times. <p>I guess I shouldn't care what other people think, I need to do what is right for me. I have been working at this for so long, I just have nothing left to give him, and in this time apart I feel more confident in myself and more rested and more encouraged about life. It is just so scary to think of being alone. My personal counselor (not the marriage counselor yet?) and friends and family feel he really wants me to make the decision to end it anyways, after all the little papers he had made or tried to get me to sign when we have been arguing over the past year about paying him alimony for this or that. His sudden turn around with out any motions to back it up has everyone including me suspicious. I just don't feel I can ever trust him again. And want so much to get on with my life.
