I cannot understand that after only 11 months of marriage, my husband moves out due to his refusal to take responsibility that he takes me for granted. <p>We argue over the most trivial stuff. For example, we argue about what church we are going to go to, or what day we are going to clean the house. He wants me to be this meek and quiet wife who just follows him. That is not fair!<p>I have tried to keep peace and not say anything but it only works for so long. <p>So, when my husband packed his bags to leave, I asked him on what grounds was he filing for divorce and he said he did not know. I also want to add that this is his second marriage and he was only married 18 months, before he filed for divorce from his 1st wife. Then he realized he maid a mistake and tried to reconcile. I just don't understand what his problem is. I have tried to be a good wife but to no avail, i can't do the right thing.

I can not say for sure what his motivation is, but
he sounds similar to how my stbxH was our first year (except he didn't leave and wasn't previously married). My H was argumentative.
He expected me to ask no questions, just obey, follow, smile at him, be exactly as he wanted me to be at any given time. Sometimes he expected me to say a certain thing a certain way. I was a PLEASER but could not please him. To make a long story short,he is a Controller/Abuser, very self-contained with no concept of my needs but selfishly expects his met.<p>It is a possibility that your H is a Controller who wants his way exactly or leaves??????<p>Or maybe he has some other deep issues??<p>Has he been willing to have marital counseling or see your pastor?

Renae,<p>That is my husband exactly!
He is a controller. He has issues with being the "man" and being the "priest of his household."<p>He did not say rather or not he is willing to go to counseling. He just said he was leaving and filing for divorce. I said well, basically you are doing the same thing in your first marriage?
He said, yep! <p>So, I just let him walk out of the door.<p>Now i am distraught but ANGRY! I cannot believe he would do this to me. I have been a damn good wife to him and he has admitted that. He told me a few weeks ago how I was a blessing to him and no one has loved like I have. I don't believe his crap anymore.