My wife and I have had some good discussions about our marriage. She has even started to read the info here at MB. Unfortunitly she has also been talking about separating. My wife has become very independent with our kids and does not know if I fit in her life anymore. This tears me apart. She has told me that one of our major LB's has been my lack of involvment with her and our family. What she does seem to notice is I was trying to be invloved, but she was excluding me from the family activities. Not to mention she has not made any attempt for us to have time away from the kids in over 4 years. I have tried, but nothing close to an intimate evening together. You can only watch your wife bite hear nails, missing the kids, before you give in and go pick them up. <P>Sorry about the tangent. I'm not sure if separating is the best thing for us. I've always looked at it as running away from your problems instead of dealing with them. Although I will give it to her if she insists, I feel it will do more damage than good. Any thoughts on the pro and cons of separating. <BR>Thanks..<P>

Have you thought about seeing if the two of you could go to a marriage enrichment weekend? I have not tried it (wish now I had), but I'm told that <A HREF="http://www.familydynamics.org" TARGET=_blank>www.familydynamics.org</A> has soe good ones..New beginnings workshop was one.<BR>

My problem has been getting my wife to commit to working on the marriage. If I suggested a workshop she would most likely accuse me of smothering her. She has become very resentful towards me and does not seem to appreciate my attempts for reconciliation.<P>Since I posted this topic, I've thought very hard about separation. I feel in my heart that she has not given me due credit for making considerable attempts to fullfill her needs these last 3 years. Maybe some time away from me will give her time to reflect on the entire picture.