After 11 months of marriage, my husband moves out and I find out that he is addicted to Porn on yesterday. <p>We were having sexual problems and I could not understand why he would not have sex with me. He would just fuss and fight and make me think that I was the problem.
He apologizes for getting so caught up in it and is afraid that he cannot be delivered from this demon. My husband is so close minded, he thinks
that he the only person that has this problem. <p>I just pray and hope he decides to get help so we can work thru this marriage. For God's sake, it has only been 11 months.

Welcome to my life. I put in ten years and had 2 children with him though before I found out he is a sex addict. I need to get Chris off to school, and will be back later today to share more, and hopefully help a bit.<p>You aren't alone in this one.<p>Elizabeth

OK, it's been a heck of a day. My ex-h sexual addiction has come to a great big head, and I had to help deal with this today, meeting w him and the shrink & doc.<p>Few baby steps.
Peek round the net for saa, sa, two groups that do a 12 step program dealing with sexual addiction. They have some great advice for what to do - and they have support groups like al-anon for the people affected by the problem.<p>There are some books, drawing a blank, but will look on my shelf and thru some papers I have to see what resources I can come up with for you.<p>He is NOT the only one, and needs to know this, they have a questionare, like aa does, and if you answer yes to so many questions then it is recommended to seek further assistance.<p>Is he just at the porn stage or has it gone further. Be careful because it might get further, and if you are sexually intimate with him you need to protect yourself. <p>My ex got to the stage where he was doing crack whores and possibly exposing our unborn baby to HIV among other things. I have gotten something from him which required a round of antibiotics, but the rest of my tests are all negative thank God. <p>This is a very serious problem, just like drug abuse or a gambling addiction, and it can ruin lives and kill.<p>Now that I have been so bright and cheerful for you I will slither away into the night.<p>I've thought about you today, and what to say, and the thing that comes to mind is hooking you up with a member here that I need to talk to anyway - cajunky. He is a wonderful person, but I will let him tell you his story. Gonna post an APB.<p>We'll talk more, if you wouldn't mind, some of the stuff gets really private and my life is so out there already, send me an email and I'll tell you the whole scoop here.<p>Elizabeth
elizabethwilkie@yahoo.com

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newstartj,<p>You are absolutely right. I take it you have been there, done that and got the T-Shirt!<p>I am sorry for your pain and what you have went thru. Especially with your kids.