I used to be over at the EN board, but think I now belong here mostly. I've been an MBer since October 2001. I am new to this board, so I know it will take me a while to learn about all of you and you about me. I have several posts on the EN board if you want to read up there, or ask me questions on this thread.<p>I am really having a hard time with the mess and ugliness that is coming from my h. I am fine with him not wanting to be married to me anymore, and quite frankly, I don't want to be married to him anymore either. He is making such a mess and I can see that if we knew someone 2 years ago that this was happening to, my h would be the first to say what a loser the guy was. Well, he needs to say that to himself. I feel like he hates me so much and that I didn't do anything to deserve this. Let's walk our separate ways. FINE!! Then go away. I shouldn't have to support his lazy *SS!!! I am really struggling with not hating him. Every time I turn around, he does something else that tears me up. I am trying so hard to just get on with my life, but his ugliness keeps popping up!!! <p>Why is this happening to me? I've been through enough and the ONE man I trusted to not betray me has done so in every way I can think of. <p>His attorney called me at work yesterday. I don't need this at my job. I got all worked up and cried and have to try to keep my composure at my job. I am a professional and his attorney SHOULD NOT have called me at work. Why can't he just stop F**KING with me? He is trying to save money with the process server, so his attorney asked if I could come pick up the papers, or if they could drop them off at my WORK or home!!!! I told her I would take her information, contact my attorney and she could work it out with her. I am so angry over this. <p>I am just beside myself at the mess he is causing and the wake of damage he is making. Once I informed the attorney that I already had an attorney, she should have stopped talking to me at that point. I know my h told her that I already had an attorney, but I guess she got to play dumb and legally had to hear it from me. Now that his attorney knows that I have already retained an attorney of my own, she can no longer contact me whatsoever. Our court date is 4 days before my birthday and 5 days before our s's. <p>I did have him sign a document that we had notorized when he originally took the money that stated that he understood that the $17,700 was a portion of the division of joint assets should our partnership end in divorce. I will be giving that document to my attorney on Monday. That will count towards dividing up assets. It ends up being about 1/2 the equity in our home.
He's not very good with money and got in way over HIS head. Now he's expecting me to be the one that bails him out by giving him almost the equivelant of what he brings home each month. URGH!! It's so maddening.<p>My son is actually doing VERY well. He hates going to his dad's and being away from me and that hurts me, but I encourage him and tell him I love him and that I'll be just fine. I'll see him (when I am going to see him next) and to have fun with his dad. "You're already going to be there baby (I don't say HAVE to be there), so have a great time. Enjoy the time you spend with your dad."<p>I am trying so hard to get on with my life. Meeting new people, making new friends, doing things for myself, being happy. Why can't he just do the same and go away and get out of my life. HE wanted this, not me!<p>Thank you very much for all the support. PLEASE POST. I HAVE to have somewhere where I feel supported, encouraged, and listened to.<p>Jess
