Two years ago, yes TWO YEARS, I was a regular member of this forum. Coming back daily looking for tidbits of hope that my marriage had a chance of succeeding. I've been throught the rollercoaster ride that many of you are on right now. I left the forum after W made it very clear that she wanted out of the marriage, and also made it clear that there was no hope of reconciliation. I have been living with that realization for the past year. She proceded to file for divorce and it was final in December 2001.<p>Yesterday, Ex-wife says God is leading her to reconcile with me. Don't know where this will lead But I just wanted to return to the forum that gave me so much hope and inspiration during my deepest hours of need and let you all know that no matter how bad it looks, it ain't over 'til it's over. I am content with what God has for me whether the marriage works out or not. I strongly desire for my kids to have a happy and healty household to live in so that, by example, they might learn to have happy marriages when they grow up. But I know that God will take care of them even if my Ex-wife changes her mind and doesn't follow through with the reconciliation.<p>For those of you just beginning, or in the middle of your struggle, the pain of what you have experienced does subside slowly. The bouts of depression get less frequent and less painful over time. Although there are no guarantees that your marriage will survive, you and your children will survive, maybe even thrive, if you follow Dr Harley's advice. My best advice to you all is, 1. Pray. He will give you strength. 2. Exercise. It helps with the depression. 3. Get out and do stuff. Hobbies, activities, volunteerism and things like that divert your attention from your problems. 4. Keep posting in this forum. No-one can encourage you more than the people in this forum. 5. Read, read, read books from Dr. Harley and others like him.<p>I pray that God will heal your hearts and keep you strong. God is on the side of Marriage Builders, not marriage breakers and if God is for you, who can be against you?<p>:-)