We are probably about a month away before our divorce is final. She told me she is in pain. She told me she needs time to grow and see if she can support herself because that has always been one of her fears.<p>I wish I found this book years ago. Relationship Rescue is unlike any other book I have found. It helps me to know the initimate details of my life and my wife. I ordered the CD too so I could listen to it in my car.<p>I still love her deeply. I have forgiven her about the things she is doing in the divorce. My friends think I am crazy.<p>I realize the failure of my marriage was mostly me. I was controlling and verbally abusive at times. I didn't realize I had the problem and I vented my issues at her instead of finding the appropriate forum.<p>I didn't learn to meet her needs emotionally.<p>She tells me that she wishes one day we would get back together for the sake of our daughter. There is just too much pain now.<p>I am going through the exercises in the book and learning a lot about myself.<p>I don't think it is too late. Maybe one day in the future we will get back together again. Who knows?

Well, I wish you all the best. Sometimes it can be too late. However, I don't think you are wasting your time. You really need to be doing what you can for yourself to improve your imperfections that caused the marriage to end the first place. I hope I don't sound to harsh. Your wife will really need to see some positive changes before she decides to reconcile. It would be wonderful for you two to be together so that your daughter can have her parents. <p>I have decided to leave my husband for a season in hopes that we will be able to work things out. However, I need to work on me and improve my self-esteem. So until then, I see no future for us and of course he needs to work on his controlling and manipulative ways. Right now, Our 4 year old son is in the middle of it all and he is not coping too well. He looks so sad. I have to protect him and that is why I am leaving too.<p>Anyway, just work on yourself and if it is meant to be, you too will find love again. This time it will be stronger and better.

Even if this marriage doesn't work (I'll be praying for you), Relationship Rescue IS NOT a waste of time.<p>The same problems in this marriage are likely to follow into any other relationship. I don't think that my husband lied to me just because I'm "Wendy". I wasn't selfish and condescending because he was "Steve". There is a lot of great advice in that book for any relationship. And if you are reading the book, then you know it's about YOU not the significant other.

I figure that the book will at least help me with dealing with her in the present/future whether we get back together or not.<p>I found out that I am listening to her a lot more. I am providing more compliments and I am being very supportive.<p>At least this will help me deal with our daughter. Our daughter has the exact same personality as my STBX.