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I am about to be divorced, because my H had an affair...then I became involved with a boyfriend from decades ago. I know he loves me, but he is having difficulty dealing with the stress from leaving his house. I think his W is very controlling and he is struggling to regain his independence.
I love him, and want to give him space to get through this...however, I am very lonely. I miss his calls, notes, seeing him. He hasn't said goodbye - he has asked me for time.
How do I give him space and yet, still get my needs met?
I am having difficulty functioning at work and getting throgh the days, I am so depressed.
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Joined: Nov 2001
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I think you should break it off with him until he is divorced. I was party to a 'divorce' between my closest friend (some friend I am, huh?) and her live in SO. It's not a nice feeling. Let him get free and clear then pick up the relationship.<p>Do you really want to be responsible for ending their marriage? Bad Karma follows you everywhere-no hiding.
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I agree,you relationship with him is not going to be built on a sturdy foundation under these circumstances. I believe that you should stop all contact with him, don't be a apart of this. If he ends up divorsed, not separated, separation is a state of marriage not divorce,then you should consider a relationship but not until then, you are only going to hurt yourself in the long run.
Dave
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