im very confused these days my wife and i havent been together for what seems like a long time we live in the same house with two kids that we love very much.
we been arguing for months i love her very much
but she ays i dont show it .
this week i found out shes calling some guy
to talk to almost every day from seing the phone bill .. that hurt me real bad but she swore
she hasent had an affair nor is she looking for one ,i wanted to work it out but now i keep tinking she s talking to him every time shes out
she said she wouln t. she said the guy is a lawer
one of her costumers and the just started talking
mostly about me.
i told her i love her but i cant get her to
tell me she loves me i dont know if she still does
im so confused we been married 12 years .
i asked if she want to work it ou to see a couselor she says yes but yet doesnt show me that
she even wants to be happy with me.
what do i do.
my 12 old son is heart broken my 9 old doughter
kepps telling me not to fight .

First of all, seek God with all your heart. He created marriage and He can help the two of you become who you each need to be and find the solutions your marriage needs. <p>If she's willing to go to counseling, don't wait!--find a good Christian counselor and go immediately! Attend Dr. Harley's seminar, read the site here and books, and focus on what needs must be met, what love-busters must be stopped, etc. I recommend the Family Life conferences too (www.familylife.com). You've got to draw new interest to the marriage and find goals for your future together, to keep her from withdrawing to the point you can't reach her. <p>And definitely do not expose the kids to these arguments. Instead, find the real issues behind the arguments and resolve those!<p>[ March 23, 2002: Message edited by: Renae ]</p>