After a month of trying to put things back together, my wife has decided to move on. She has an apartment now and says has no feelings for me anymore. She said she is ready to sign papers now. I have had no choice but to go and file today for divorce to save what I do have left of my life. We have a toddler daughter who lives with me due to the environment she is currently living in. Also I cannot trust my wife to take care of her due to her past record of not showing she cares for her. But she says she misses her and wants her.<P>I filed for a contested divorce today to obtain custody of my daughter, but I am willing to work things out with my wife if she truly showed some effor, she has shown none whatsoever.<P>She moved out the first time just before Thanksgiving and returned when she found out her parents were coming to town. I thought it was for us but after her parents left she went right back to her same ole ways. Staying out all night and going somewhere almost every night of the week leaving me at home to take care of daughter. I told her that was enough that we need to get help we tried three sessions of marriage counseling and she quit going and moved out.<P>I have read several areas where people have gotten back together after their divorce/seperation just wondering if in my case that this may hold true.<P>Thanks for reading my post.<P>Todd

I can totally symphasize with your situation. I have been divorced for 2 1/2 yrs after 28 yrs of marriage. Ex left me for OW and is still living with her, but there is no immed. plans for marriage that I am aware of. I still would like to reconsile my marriage, and have been advised until he marries, there still may be hope however slim. I did not know about Dr Harley and Plan A and Plan B when I was going through my divorce. After reading his books, I see where I was unknowingly bouncing back and forth between A and B which is a major mistake. Right now I can see the hope for both of us is to stay in Plan A as long as we can. But please get some counseling and keep other interests outside your relationship problems. There are so many wise people in these forums and I learn something new everyday from the experience of others.