UPDATE for all of my MB friends. My husband is moving back home today. YIPEE!<p>After seven long months of separation, we are now going to start on to our recovery together. For those of you who don&#8217;t know my story, here is a quick background. There is NO infidelity in our marriage, we were at a point where we just could not agree on anything and were constantly fighting about anything and everything. My husband also has a lot of issues from childhood that he suppressed so long that they finally came up and he needed to deal with them. There were things that I could not help him with. It wasn&#8217;t until my husband said that he was moving out that I was able to see a lot of the mistakes that I was making in the marriage that I needed to change. I was partly responsible for my husband becoming emotionally drained and it really hurt me to know that I hurt one of the people I truly love so much. While I was not happy with the separation and the kids were devastated, I believe it was the best thing for us. Yes, we had the horrible rollercoaster rides with great progress forward and a lot of backsliding. We have both changed and grown during this separation and I really believe we are going to make it work. We have developed a greater respect for each other and are now more in tune with each other&#8217;s needs and we are really learning how to communicate with each other. My husband is still in individual counseling, which has helped him and us immensely. We will start marriage counseling as soon as his counselor says he is ready.<p>I could not have become the person I am becoming without all the great support and help from all of you wonderful people here on this sight and the MB principles. I know we have a long road ahead of us but I really think we are going to make it. I do know that the rollercoaster ride isn&#8217;t going to stop right away and we still have so much learning and growing to do.<p>I am still going to really need all of your support and prayers to help us through to a successful recovery.<p>Thanks again to all and I will keep you updated.<p>Michele

I am so glad to hear things are working out for you and H, I hope you can remember all that you have learned and keep working in a positive direction, We don't hear many success stories here . It is good to hear people are willing to do what it takes to recover from separation or divorce, Keep up the good work

I just wish that my X ciould see her FOO issues, and could work on them also, but she has no issues. . . . because her family avoids those issues. . . <p>congratulations Michelle!<p>the hard work still continues. . . .<p>good luck
wiftty

My H's FOO problems are compounded because he is living with them during the separation.
Last week a copied a quote from the site. to Paraphrase:
The number one predictor of divorce is the avoidance of conflict. It pretty much sums up my marriage. But he "has no issues".<p>I wish I could be a success story here too, but I need to file this week to establish reasonable visitation schedules.

WOW!!<p>I'm glad to hear it, Michele. It sounds like you are both poised to do a great Plan A on each other. I'm so glad he's in counseling, I think it makes the difference for so many who give it a chance.<p>Best wishes for your future!

Michele,<p>Wow! I am so happy for you. I hope it goes well and things are as you expect them to be. How lucky you are to be able to share the changes in yourself with your husband permanently!<p>I admit I felt a twinge reading this........you remember you and I were newbies here at the same time last year, such a support to each other. I wish it could have worked for me too but sadly, it isn't meant to be.<p>Congratulations to you, and lots of cyber-hugs!!!<p>Love and light,<p>Jacky