I'm a 26-year old stay-at-home mom and have been married to my husband for nearly 3 years (he's 28). I was four months pregnant when we got married, which for us wasn't too terrible because we were already engaged. <P>Up until our honeymoon, we had a wonderful sex life, emotional and physical intimacy and pretty much couldn't keep our hands off each other (hence the pregnancy!!!) Well, after our honeymoon, practically overnight, my husband lost his desire for sex. <P>At first he said it was the pregnancy that did it, he had this silly idea that he would hurt the baby, even though he knew it wasn't true. Then, it was the pressures of the baby being born, my post partum depression, a new job, a new house, a new marriage, several deaths in the family - all within a period of a year. <P>I tried to be very understanding because even though all this didn't kill my libido, I could understand how it might for someone else. But life started to settle back into a "normal pattern" and still things didn't change. I began to take his rejections personally because I still had a little post-pregnancy weight and I got very depressed and started eating and gained about 70lbs pounds over the last 2 years (pleased to say I've lost almost 20lbs in the last 1 1/2 months). <P>He says he loves me and I believe he does, but he just has NO desire for sex. He doesn't watch porn, doesn't masturbate (I asked him, he told me he doesn't and he's a very honest person). I'd be able to live with sex once a week, which is not too much to ask for, in my opinion. For him, it's every 2-3 months - if that (been 6 weeks since our last encounter) and it's usually only because I'm in tears about it by that point. He does it out of a sense of "duty" (he once admitted that to me) and NEVER initiates. <P>We tried counseling, but the counselor only validated him, basically saying that he had a right to feel that way and I should just learn to live with it. He doesn't feel like there's even a problem (!) so is reluctant to go back for counseling and has no motivation to fix it. He keeps saying he'll go to a physician to see if it's a medical problem but never does. <P>This has caused our marriage to deteriorate tremendously. I can't even bear to have him hug or kiss me anymore. I'm cranky all the time towards him, and even sometimes towards our little daughter who I know doesn't deserve it. There is absolutely no intimacy either emotional or physical between us. On the rare occasions we have sex, there's no foreplay, no kissing and it leaves me with a very empty and disappointed feeling. His rejections have caused me to resent him terribly and even if his desire reversed and he suddenly became interested in me again, I don't know if I could ever feel close to him. <P>We never kiss except for a peck on the cheek (he now has some type of aversion to kissing it seems) and our alone time together (which we rarely get because of our toddler) he likes to spend in front of the TV. We don't sleep together anymore, partially because he snores terribly but mainly because of this. <P>I hate all the tension around here. Tension caused by me, because I'm so dissatisfied with my married life. I'm thinking about leaving just so my daughter doesn't have to deal with all of this negativity. <P>What do you think? Any suggestions? <P>Thank you.