3-18 was D-date, x told judge that OW was just friends, forgot to tell about living together or her D. Judge wouldnt listen to my Lawyer about `1/2 of Navy retirement, found out from my Lawyer that my father-in-law was there because he knew the judge. The next day after D I went to NAS pensacola they gave me all the paperwork for appeals, found a new lawyer that will fight for me, only have 30 days after D to file with judge, he can sit on it 60 days then its off to appeals in higher court & a different judge. I came away with only $475 child support & the house, my X makes 42,000 his house is paid for & no bills, our 13yr old son wants to cut off seeing his dad, he told him the next day after court he hates him & doesnt want to see him, he hates what he did to his family, his mom & his life he had before, he has lied so much to his son, he promised to pay for his school but when court came he only has to pay half, I cannot afford to send him next yr. he will have to go to public schools, he also took $11,000 in college money that was in our sons name. Put the house for up sale cant afford the payments. have medical problems & cant work. X also has a right to go thur our house looking for items we sold thur a yard sale with a police officer watching, its a football & small helmets X left them behind & didnt want them, told Judge they were sold & offered him the money for them. Ive prayed & God has answered our prays, got a buyer for our house just after 2 weeks on the market, my brother is taking his rental house off the market so I can buy it with nothing down. Friends are helping us find a rental til my son can finished school & start appeals. The military has been great helping my lawyer they cant go to court with us but can supplied him with court cases & how to handle the case, IM not worried about getting my half of his retirement its covered under uniformed services former spouses protection act, & there has already been 3 cases tried in AL Supreme Court & the spouses won, I will be going after everthing we agreed before the D & more our son doesnt want to see his dad anymore & wants to talk with the new judge. I believe God will not let us down, X can have his married girlfriend, I wonder if he remembers the lies she told her last husband about her working & being with him instead, what kind of life is that. The greatest gift I could ask for was when my son told me dont worry we have each other & thats what counts. X blames me for his son not wanting to see him & not loving him anymore, I will pray that he finds it in his heart to see what he has done to his family, our savings is gone this has cost us around $9,000. & court cost for appeals will cost even more. I hope she was worth it.

Dear Misst...<p>Hang in there... I'm sorry no one has responded til now. I just came online. So, you sound like you've got your NUMBER ONE priority out there and that is to TRUST GOD... <p>Your H will NOT prevail... he thinks he's scot free... <p>The TRUTH will be known...<p>You just do what you can do to protect yourself and your son. Do everything you can not to harm any ill will from your son towards his father... he can form his own opinions and may later have harmful feelings towards you if he has to bear any of your feelings on top of his own abandonment feelings.<p>It sounds like your support system/team is rallying around you... just keep your EYES to HIM and TRUST... do not fear. It may get ugly and it may get worse... but you KNOW where your faith belongs...<p>Take care! Now, I'm not regularly ON this board anymore like I used to be so if I don't get back to you it's not because I don't care... because I do. I pray that others will surround you and support you and that the truth of your H's situation will come out... God will NOT be mocked.<p>Blessings,
Nicole

The anger your son is feeling is expected. My own son has gone thru all those emotions and still is at time. We are now at the stage where he doesn't want to talk to his dad, either and is always putting him down( deservingly so) but I just tell him Oh we can't control your dad's behaviour , we can only control ours...so together we can and will get thru this.
Our daughter is getting married in 10 days and her dad isn't even coming to the wedding. Was invited but has made alot of excuses.
Sorry to say but this is one event that he will never be able to make up for.
Our children have formed thier on opinons , about thier dad...and I don't even have to say a word....
What goes around comes around and Karma is biting him in the ARSSS right now for sure...
take care
God Bless

misst,<p>I was so sad to read your story but just remember that it isn't over yet!<p>I wish you the best of luck and be sure to keep us informed.<p>ANNA

I used to believe that the truth would prevail, but I now know that that sort of thinking is foolishly optimistic. MONEY prevails. The important thing is to get the best, most aggressive lawyer you can afford, and don't be "nice," don't worry about being the bigger person - it will just allow him to walk all over you. The only goal should be getting the financial security you and your child needs.

Really Nellie?<p>Hmmm, angry you sound. I'm not sure if I agree but then I haven't walked a mile in your shoes... I do believe that the truth will come out... in fact, that's a prayer of mine... <p>Hang in there Misst