I spoke with my husband yesterday and told him that I needed some closure and that this has been going on too long. This was after he sent me an email saying hello.
He informed me that he wanted a divorce and he wanted to do it thru mediation. He said the only reason why he hasn't filed is because he has not had the money.<p>He then asked me where was I in the marriage. I advised him that I have been getting counseling and working on myself. I told him I forgive him and that I still loved him. I told him that I wanted our marriage to work out. <p>He told me that he was SURPRISED that I still wanted the marriage because of all that has happened and the fact that we have not spoken in over a month. I told him that did not change my feelings and we have made vows to God. <p>He told me that he is not 100% sure that he wants a divorce but he is definitely leaning that way. <p>What are your thoughts?

Talk to him about what you have learned here --
and what you have learned about relationships..<p>Ask him if he'd be willing to take the emotional needs questionaire and discuss them afterwards
see if maybe things can be worked out..

ThornedRose,<p>I sent him an email yesterday asking that very thing and he did not respond. I have realized that I can't make someone want to be with me.<p>I have tried all I can to save my marriage. I was willing to stay in it even though he was addicted to porn. <p>I am giving up.