Well, my H who is in Mexico right now with a friend (single) has not called our daughters and I. I told him that if he was to go he<BR> had to sware that he would call, well he made two two minute calls on Sunday - 24 hours after he swore he would phone - he<BR> was very drunk(so much for him telling me he had no intention of going there to drink and party), the phone cut off, he knew I was<BR> upset but made no effort to call back and didn't even call on Monday. I don't even know where he is staying, they weren't finding a place to stay until they got there. He has a family and can not be reached in any emergency which really upsets me,totally irresponsible, our kids are asking to talk to him - he promised them he would call as well. I am so angry, its like this is the straw that broke the camels back. I have dealt with so much<BR> crap from him that I don't know if I can take it anymore. I was in a total withdrawl stage for almost a year because of his verbal abuse and his jelousy, he had accused me several times of cheating with friends of ours which was totally not true and has caused alot of damage to our relationship. We finally made a break<BR> through - I came out of the withdrawl but it also made alot of the hurt come back, every time he does something like this it all<BR> comes back since the majority of our problems were never ever resolved. I don't know if I want to have this work now, I do love him but I can't believe he is so irresponsible not to even care about his family and care that we are sitting here waiting for his call. I am so angry and hurt right now - I don't know if I can take<BR> anymore hurt with him. I don't know if he will ever realize how much he has really hurt me. He doesn't come back until this<BR> saturday and if he doesn't call I will go insane, I will be so upset that I don't even think I could stand to see him without totally loosing it. Today is his birthday and the kids are expecting to talk<BR> to him, I don't know what to say if he doesn't call, they will be heartbroken. Any advice please? Am I over reacting?

No advice...<BR>Just wanted to let you know I hear you, and I'm sorry... <BR>Keep in mind that the kids will deal with it probably better than you will if he doesn't call.<BR>I think on another post, someone suggested that you read the info on this site, vent to us all you want, and then try to talk calmly and quietly to your H (and, pick your time...not when he walks in the door) about how to better meet each others needs and improve your marriage. I'd go with that suggestion...