Hi all,<p>I know. It's been awhile. Life has been good for me but now I'm back here seeking some words of wisdom.<p>The last time I ever saw my xw was when she was moving out of our house almost 8 months ago. Needless to say the rollercoaster ride that everyone here is on finally is done and I am coming back to the gates. Now there's just one final jolt. My best friend is about to marry my xw's best friend. The fun part is we are both in the wedding together. Alot has happened since the last time I saw her. We both moved backed to Texas and she is engaged to the man she had an affair with. To get to the point, has anyone here had to be with their x at an occasion like this? I guess I'm just getting prepared more than anything. In all honesty, my xw has become more like a bad dream. Something that was so bad, happenend in a different world that it almost doesn't seem real anymore. You know, I thought I could honestly say I didn't have anymore feelings for her after all she did, but its there. I can feel it. And I'm just a little nervous how I'm going to react when I see her once again.<p>Wise words needed.<p>Brandon

Hey ya Brandon,<p>Let me consult an older wise person and get back with you.<p>Awww.....Confucius say...<p>"Man who go to best friend wedding when ex wife go too, need to take Reese Witherspoon look-a-like with him for some mental support."<p>hehe. [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Been busy, been missing ya on IM GG, hopefully, I'll catch ya later.<p>ANNA

Jeepers Brandon!!!<p>I just realized you posted at 4:00 in the morning. DANG! What were you doing up at that hour? This really must be buggin' you!<p>Okay, breath in, breath out, call in sick this morning and go back to bed for a couple of hours.<p>ANNA

Thanks Anna,<p>Good to hear from you again. Reese can't make it because she's graduating from her master's program that day. Booooooooo. Honestly, I think taking someone wouldn't be so good. This is my best friends wedding and the last thing I want to do is add drama to it that doesn't have to deal with him. Trust me I've thought and discussed this for quite a while now. I think it's best. The thing is I've heard she's bringing [censored]. Should be fun. I have to spend two nights with her, rehearsal and the wedding. Just thought I should be prepared. Just nervous I guess. Who knows how I'll react.<p>Thanks,
Brandon

Ask your friend's fiancee why she is having someone standup for her wedding that doesn't believe in wedding vows????<p>How will your x support her friend if/when they start to have a problem?

Well GoodGuy,<p>I would have to tell you that if you are not comfy in this position to respectfully bow out. If they/he are/is your best bud obviously they know of your situation and the discomfort you may be feeling with your X in the wedding party.<p>I was asked to go to a wedding last year as a guest. Sure, ok, it's not a date and I know the bride. Well, turns out that the Groom is friends with Brian [OM] and that he and Val [XW] would be attending. The bride asked very nicely in a round about way that I not attend. She feared there would be trouble. No prob on my part. There would be no trouble on my part, I really didn't want to see the X and it was her W day so I respectfully found something else to do. I found out that the X didn't show either. That's as close as I can give ya. Haven't seen Val up close and personal since last January. <p>If it bothers you that much, don't do it.<p>But, that's just me.