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I could understand what you're going through. My situation is a little similar. My ex has moved on and now he's confused about who he wants. The thought of him being intimate with someone else hurts me. I don't understand how he could makes plans to move with someone else so quickly. <p>If she really wants to work it out and rebuild with you, she should stop dating and sleeping around thats not being fair to you and thats not being sincere about wanting to give your relationship another chance.
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Hi,<p>The best thing you can do for yourself is to respect your morals and your feelings. Abandoning them in an attempt to reconcile is like building a house on quick sand. There will be no hope that the house will stand.<p>Sounds to me more like she is trying to control you. Maybe the best thing is just to let her go. If she can return and commit to you and you alone, you stand a good chance of building a healthy relationship.<p>I have been divorced 2 years now, seperated for 4; I have a very bad relationship with my ex. His choice. I still love him, too; I understand your pain. But don't give up the ship...by that, I mean your ship. Your morals and conscience will be the rudder and sails that you will need the rest of your life. Don't compromise them no matter how much you love someone.<p>Take care,<p>jtois
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Wow!<p>I hate to be so blunt, but I know this one all too well.<p>What is your threshold for pain? I hope it is very high... because your going to need it.<p>Your beating a dead horse here... I know, I beat my dead horse for a very long time, until I fianlly realized that the horse was truly dead.<p>You need to make a decision now! Take more and more pain daily, or cut her lose. <p>If she ever gets her brains put back in her head, and her brain is there to stay, then, and only then, would I even try considering putting back your relationship with her.<p>Your going to go through a lot of pain if you don't, and the pain you go through, may very well be all for nothing.<p>Quit being a safety net. You got some good advice from everyone here, I would listen to it.<p>Stay Strong!<p>Wallace
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