I don't know how to begin except by say that the MB website and the people in it are beyond my understanding in how they cope and care for one another. Thanks
A year ago my wife left me to be with someone else(an all too fimilar story from what I've gathered)and I started to heal and life began again slowly. Then I met a friend and very quickly a relationship started and we are married. This was two months ago and she now feels trapped and has no desire to stay in our relationship. We are still great friends and my only regret is not knowing how to love her more than I do. We are moving her and her two children this weekend and I have hopes that we can start over. my question to anyone that will listen is why do people desire to have this stress and conflict? I'm trying to cope with the reality of that it's completely over and my love for her will fade and eventually will lose contact. I don't want this, she knows and still ask for me to give her up until or if she is ready to have marriage again with me.

fairbanksd I am sorry that you going through this. I am not too sure what you are actually asking here. But obviously you are hurting. It seems that you rushed into the marriage and your wife seems to want out. You do not mention how those 2 months of marriage were. Were they happy? How did you get along as a 'family'? It sounds like she has told you that she might, in the future, be ready to be married to you. Are you prepared to wait? If so I think you should the read the material on this site, and try to do a Plan A with her. This may form a foundation on which to build the marriage and get to know what each one expects from the marriage. <p>I hope someone else posts as I'm not sure I that I fully understand the situation....<p>Pantha

Thanks for touching base with me. The bottom line question is; What do women want and what do I need to do to start over from day one?
I quess there is still a bit of confusion on my part. The first month of being married was truely a great experience. I like to talk about our concerns and we have a open relationship even now. The problems started due to a misunderstanding and issues concerning my four children that only visit on the weekends. This only added to the stress and frustration my wife had with my either poor ability to listen or bad memory. The basics of understanding are just not with me and her only downfall in our relationship is the fact she takes everything very personally. All actions, word and thought have to be broken down before actually starting. I've asked for her forgiveness and she knows I am willing to work and make any sacrafice to hold on to what we have had. She is such a great woman with so many possibilities. The only negitive response I've recieved from her is true, (I'm too nice to people).