Hi all,<p>Okay, last night I couldn't sleep well. As you guys may have read yesterday my stbx told me how he cashed in our life insurance policy which had a cash value of $6,000. The lawyers said their was nothing I could do...<p>He also said that he had an account worth $1,000.00...I thought for sure it was more than that.<p>Well, this morning I woke up thinking about it and went straight to our personal files, and pulled the account, low and behold...in 1999 the account was worth almost $8,000 and it gets interest of 6.37% per year! To date it's worth a little over $9,000.00.<p>Also! Here's the big one...he has a pension and I have been with him through almost every year of his employment. I did not even think about the pension for months, until last night and he did not put this on his discovery! YEEHAW!<p>I was so sad last night, I was thinking about how he has addictions to drugs and alcohol through our marriage, beats me up, which ruined our marriage by doing so and now I have to pay him for equity in the house.... [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] I didn't want to give that jerk a dime and now he may have to pay me. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Well, keep your fingers crossed for me.<p>ANNA<p>[ April 27, 2002: Message edited by: Anna2000 ]</p>

(((Anna))) Will keep my fingers crossed! <p>I am baffled at an X's ability to lie and deceive.... it really ticks me off BIG time....<p>
Love
Pantha

Pantha,<p>I am baffled too. He took my part of the insurance money, he lied about how much he had on this extra pension account, I never would have thought he'd be so low as to take my money and think he could get by with it...<p>I'm going to get it all back though!<p>I just wonder what else he is hiding and not telling me...<p>I think he's accusing me of doing things that he's actually doing...some how trying to ease his guilt...<p>Take care and thanks,<p>ANNA

Anna,<p>FYI: any lawyer will tell you, they go back three years in any account you had/have jointly.. if YOU HAVE "all" your account No`s.. (of course that is if your married 10 yrs or more) so he will HAVE TO come up with YOUR HALF..! It is just a matter of time, and takes more time when some one does things like this.. the more he hides, the more time for the/both your lawyers to make money to find ""your share.. <p>lots of luck.. take care...AV

Anna,<p>sorry, I just realized your in TX, so I am not sure about that area.. I live in NY.. and they can look back up to three yrs in accounts here.. ever so sorry about the mistake.. [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] <p>tc/AV

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Anna2000:
<strong>Hi all,<p>Okay, last night I couldn't sleep well. YEEHAW!<p>I was so sad last night, I didn't want to give that jerk a dime and now he may have to pay me. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Well, keep your fingers crossed for me.<p>ANNA<p>[ April 27, 2002: Message edited by: Anna2000 ]</strong><hr></blockquote><p>Hi, your situation sounds very similar to mine... In a twisted sort of way. In '98 I was forced out of the Army on Medical Disability, and in the middle of a Divorce. We were expecting a $25,000 Lump Sum Disability Severance Payment from the Army. My STBX (at that time) and I had mutually agreed that we would go to the bank together, withdraw the money together and pay off our joint debt together. Didn't happen. She went to the bank every day on her own unbeknownst to me and the day the Payment was deposited, she withdrew it all, closed out our Joint Savings account, and put it into a New Account with only her name on it - I was not entitled to a penny of it. Well, making a long story short, it took about a week, but bottom line was, our bills were paid off, even though she kept the rest of the money for herself and would not share any of it with me. She was so paranoid I was going to "beat her up and take HER money" that she had a Third Party go with us to pay off our bills. When we divorced 2 months later, it looked (at that time) like she had all the cards, as I was worth approximately $1,500 at the time - as she had kept nearly every single possession we owned at the time, although we were supposed to "split it 50/50" but it didn't happen, and Divorce Courts could really care less about it... We did a Simple Dissolution with Children. Bottom line is... God kept His Promise to me and over the course of several years... He replaced EVERY SINGLE THING I had lost - with newer and better things... God WILL take care of you. Where is my ex now? Well, her husband has just had a stroke, they're having to move again, they sold our old house, and it appears that "financial hard times have fallen on them" - she is still in the grip of bitterness, vindictiveness and hatred. The Lord graciously allowed me to move on with my Divorce Recovery with the help of (more than) a few friends and a great book, "Growing Through Divorce" by Jim Smoke. I'm not rich and never will be, although the Lord has blessed my new wife and I because we choose to leave our sordid pasts behind and move on with what God and life have to offer us. Sort of reminds me of how in the Bible, Jacob's Uncle Laban cheated Jacob, but the LORD replaced what had been stolen from Jacob by "taking it from Laban and giving it to Jacob" It's in Genesis. So, hang in there! God is faithful and He will honour you as the Betrayed Spouse... TX is a Community Property State, as you well know. You have done the right thing "checking things out" on your own and not just blindly accepting what ROT your ex is pushing your way. Sounds like you're on the right track for putting your lying deceiving conniving ex in his place - only because HE chooses to be that way and not to deal straight and fairly with you...
God bless you (and hang in there!)
Harold<p> [img]images/icons/cool.gif" border="0[/img]