S 15 months, I detached from W. MLC call it what you like I couldn't blame W for leaving me.
She was brave and courageous doing so but was for months down the line very depressed. OM was work colleague and he was dumped by his W prior to our break up. They consoled each other. W was vulnerable and felt "safe" and desired again by OM. They became intimate in September 2001 having been S 8 months.
Now, I find that they have nothing in common, they are like chalk and cheese. They argue 'cos he knows I am ALWAYS on her mind. YET I feel W is carrying this "guilt" around with her and maybe I would bring this all up months into any future reconcilation. That I would try and get her back. That I would after a few months decide I was better on my own. W is very insecure.
W has said these things in a mumbling tearful way.
But does the WAW feel this guilt and think after ALL this I wouldn't love her the way I used to or should.
W may think she deserves to be unhappy with OM. Although he can financially look after her and remain monogamous she will not be happy 'cos OM is not "me". Doesn't laugh like we did together. Does not have mutual interests and gel the way we did. etc etc
So is this her penance as she once texted to me on her mobile phone?
W is still after all this time in some sort of fog. She has mumbled many things whilst crying. It is mixed messages that make me feel she is holding a "guilt complex".
Of course I need to be her friend through all of this.
Scott