I recently found out that my huband of under two years had a two week emotional affiar. the affiar lead to kissing and heavy petting (even in my own home). There are no words to express the pain I feel. My husband is truely sorry for his actions and feels extreame guilt, especially when he kisses me. He also wonders if he can trust himself to be faithful (he thought that he could have before). This affair, I know in my heart, was unintentional and a problem with communication in our hectic marriage of opposite schedules. How can I heal the pain and learn to trust again? Also, are there any chat groups, web sites, or books that may be helpful. We are both in our 20's and want to make this marriage work. Please help us.

Lucia:<P>You might want to go to the Just Found Out forum or General Questions forum under "infidelity". There's a lot of info on EA's there - you may get more responses too. Also go to the Recovery forum to see how different people are coming along with the same circumstances.<P>I'm sorry for both of your pains you are going through right now. I know it's really tough. Seems that both of you really want this to work, so that's a great step in the right direction.<P>Have you thought of counseling? My H and I have been in counseling (his affair was physical) since January. That, plus this site has helped <B>loads</B>! We are on the road to recovery - it's been a little bit rocky (especially in the beginning), but because we both wanted this marriage to work, it's made it much easier on both of us.<P>Also, get the book <B>His Needs, Her Needs</B> and <B>Surviving and Affair</B> - both by Harley. Read all you can on this site too. It's so inciteful and it really helps to understand where the problems stem from and how to make sure they never happen again.<P>Good luck in your recovery!<P>--purplemag<p>[This message has been edited by purplemag (edited April 04, 2000).]