My sister and i since we were little argued all the time. She always left me behind for her friends and today after so many years and we adult woman now she still does that. In my familly i have been always the little girls in the sense i am the crazy one and mom <BR>always get in my side. latelly she is been very rude to me and i feel bad since i love my sister so much and i always want to be with her and do things with her. She is great with me when there is not friends around otherwise she will ignore me completally, i do not know how to act and if i tell her how i feel she says i am overreacting that she is the same with everyone. Well, i want to be with my sister like few years ago, there was a time that we were so close to eachother. <P>Can someone please give me advice in how to act with her or how make her understand i want to be her best friend and i love her so much.<P>Thank you.<P>Diana.

Hi Diana!<P>It's amazing how our family can somehow make us feel like we're kids again, isn't it? All those patterns keep playing out... I too am a "little" sister, but my big sister was pretty willing to let me come along and hang out with her friends when we were younger. How big an age difference is there between you two? Because that can matter a lot!<P>I think the best thing you can do is to make plans with your sister on a regular basis. But when you do see her, keep it upbeat. If she feels nagged, she'll want to spend even less time with you. Ask her how she's doing, tell her what's new in your life, ask her advice (big sisters usually love that) and don't mention the thing about her friends. Until your relationship with her is on more solid footing, it's probably best to spend time with her one-on-one and let her have her time with her friends - don't try to be involved. It'll only irritate her and hurt you.<P>I hope this helps...