But before that happens can anyone tell me if their is something i can do to change that?. Divorce is such a final step and also frightening.My husband of three years is never there ,he only spends time with our son if i pester him. i have been getting food stamps as he never buys food. The two big dissapointments are he has cheated on me once and he doesnt seem to want to fight for us. He says he does but his lack of action says otherwise. I feel i am a single mother with a husband , he is there but he's not. I know i have my own faults but i would never stop fighting for my family.It seems he can buy himself a hunting bow for 500 dollars but he tells me to go easy on the diapers as we are strapped for cash???.I dont want to pack it in but ive talked to him about this and he still doesnt understand or he tells me the things that i do wrong.I dont think this is all on me here doesnt it take two to make a marriage? mine seems to be sinking and so am i.

Divorce is really hard. I am in the process after being married to the same man for 24 yearrs. He is the one that had a wild sexy affair. <p>Divorce is the end of a relationship. In most circumstances, you and H will not be good friends. You will just be acquantances with the child that became both of yours. But as far as having a friend to talk to, you won't have one. I used to talk to my WH all the time, tell him things and really enjoyed the conversations and doing things with him. He now wants to have nothing to do with me, and uses the kids to get things done. But as far as quality time, he wants to be by himself. <p>The WS looks at their fantasy as the answer to all lifes circumstances. They did not live with this person, have bills, have money problems, have immediate family problems and etc. Just like my WH, the OW is the most admirable, honorable, woman and a christian, that opened her legs in 3 affairs and being married to the same guy after 28 years of marriage. <p>The first step is to take and separate, and get a lawyer if you are strapped for money. You can get a lawyer that will extend the divorce for 2 years if you want. I found that out. He will get you the money you need, and make sure your WH does not fall idle on keeping you in good shape, while he is finding himself. <p>To tell you the truth, I wish I had filed a long time ago. I fear in my relationship, that SNL is hording money because we have our own business, and he is probably stashing money away, by having the customers make checks out to him. <p>Good luck, I would get an attorney, and tell him you are strapped for money, or go through the social services for help.