My H and I known each other since August 2001. He teaches. Everything had went smooth until we had gotten married. We married in February 2002. We have no children invloved in this. Every since then he has been withdrawing from me. He has been distant from intimacy. We have been getting into pissing contests often. He is a beginning teacher and some of his students are giving him problems. Even when he has a good day it always ends up a bad day. I feel like I have no feelings. He always reminds me of the things he does for me to make me feel stupid. But when I remind him of the things I do for him he always get upset and huff and puff and roll his eyes.<p>He tells me that he cannot wait unti the school year is over because he is stressed out from the school. The administration does not support my husband when he has a problem with a student. So I can understand. Another problem is that when I ask him these why he act this way kind of questions he says that I am trying to start a quarrel. Then he turns around and tries to take what he says back and says that I am not starting a fight. By the same token I feel that he is seeing someone else besides me. He has not been acting like this before. I love him and he says that he loves me but to tell the truth I am starting to lose love for him that I feel like cheating. I am feeling this way because I think he is seeing someone else behind my back. <p>What am I supposed to do as a wife.

Its always hard to start off a marriage when there is alot of job stress. It's good though that you notice that something is wrong and are trying to do something about it. <p>Please read the info. on this site or His Needs Her Needs by Harley. This way you will learn a little about the psycology of relationships. After reading about your emotional needs you can print out the EN questionaire from this site and have you and your H both fill it out. If he is not interested in any of this, then fill it out as if you were your H. Also fill out the LB (love buster) questionaire. Then try and fulfill his EN's and take out the LB's.<p>Sounds simple, doesn't it. Well as you know, relationships take work, and we wish that the other party would simly snap out of whatever is eating them and return to the wonderful people we married. However, when one or the spouses is in a crisis mode(whether they know it or not) it is up to the other spouse to help them out of it. Reading about the stages of marriage explains this better.<p>Anwyay, whether you feel like the one to put the work in right now or not, it's up to you to try a put a little effort into the marraige to turn things around. As I mentioned, you can do this through a Plan A. You can also read some books by Susan Page and Gary Smalley who tell you how the marriage can be saved through the efforts of just one of the spouses.<p>I wish I would have been able to see these signs in my marriage before my H had an affair. Things would have been so much different.<p>Good luck. K