Ive been married for three years and it already seems to be over. We have one child age two to add to this chaos and i have no idea what to do. He has cheated on me once as far as i am aware and does not seem to be able to be there for us. He can spend five hundred dollars on a bow and arrow set but he tells me i have to take it easy on the twenty dollar diapers because we are short on cash???.Divorce seems wrong to me and i am very much a christian but how can i stay in a situation where i have to pick up stray items like pocket knives and lighters that are on the floor or within our childs reach?.I am completely unsure what the next course of action is as my concerns seem to go unheard of in his ear. I feel like he is only playing house but he continually tells me he loves me and feels he is a failure but he doesnt do anything to change that. When i try to tell him im not happy in the marriage instead of finding possible solutions he will just sit there and tell me what a horrible person he is and how screwed up he is.What can i do to fix this?.

((((((((((((Ericsmom)))))))))))))) Hugs for you.<p>I'm sorry that you are going through this pain right now. It's not fun to look around and feel like there is no where to turn.<p>I would however, not say that there is not a way out of your situation. If you have read the information on this site you should have learned that by doing a Plan A and eliminating all LBs, you should be able to put enough love units into your H's love bank for him to want to change, be a better person and begin to put love units into your love bank. If this sounds like a foreign language - read His Needs Her Needs by Harley or the info. on this site.<p>There are also other books by Gary Smalley and Susan Page that talk about how to get your husband back - and these are not just affair books, but books for people in your situation.<p>There are lots of things that one person can do to bring the two of your together.<p>It won't be overnite, but if you are committed then it's possible.<p>Just htink about where you want to be in 6 mos. or a year. If it's with a changed H and in a happy marriage then give ine of these methods a try.<p>Divorce will always be an option, so why not work on the marriage first? And believe me, divorce is not a very good option at that.<p>Right now, try to take care of yourself, get a support system for you, do some reading and then make a decision. Hopefully after that the future won't seem so bleak for you. K

Give your relationship a "Brush With Death". Go stay with a good friend for a while. This could be hard on the both of you but, he might not know what he has until it's gone.

Ive made plans to stay with my mother for a while , she's always been there for me. I will be reading the plan a plan b information and i hope and pray that i will still have a marriage after this is over. I am still very much in love with my husband although he isnt the same person i married. Thank you so much for your helpand prayers , it means a great deal to me.