I can't believe this happened. (No ExH disn't come back, but it's just as good - I think.)<p>Ok. I just finished posting a reply on this board today after having a not so very good meeting with my ExH. He is so controlling, and is holding money and kids over my head as much as he can to get his selfish way.<p>Anyway, after he left, and before I posted here, I was crying out to God for justice for me and my family and in particular I was asking Saint Faustina of the Divine Mercy for help. For anyone who is interested, I was saying the Chaplet of Mercy that Jesus said to Saint Faustina that anything you ask of me through the Chaplet will be granted if it is compatible with My will.<p>Usually when I get this upset and cry out to God in this way, something happens to make me feel better within the hour. Well I was waiting for that something and ExH calls. I of course let the phone ring because I am crying over him and praying and he doesn't leave a message - he calls back 4 times - never leaves a message. <p>So I post on this forum to make myself feel better, and while I am posting, ExH calls again and this time leaves a message. It's an emergency he says.<p>I call him back. He tells me that he is getting sued for med. mal. because he doesn't look like a pillar in the community(at least that what the patient told him) because his wife(me) posted that he had an affair on the internet(which I deny doing) and it makes him look like a bad person. Supposedly patient filing suit saw this - or his atorney found something.<p>Well, I don't know what ExH is ranting about but I do a search on the internet of ExH's name - and low and behold something comes up.<p>A long time ago I put a prayer request on the web site for Saint Sister Faustina and it says something like I pray for conversion of ExH and of it is GOd's Will that he end his affair and return to the marriage and then my name and e-mail is there. Nothing racy or underhanded.<p>Now since we're divorced - I can't be held liable for any of the monetary judgments against ExH - and we just got divorced too. This is a good thing.<p>So, anyway I just thought it was neat that I called out to God and St. Faustina specifically for help, and then I get this call and find out that thew info. came from St. Faustina. Coinscidence? I think not. <p>I'm not exactly sure how this will help me, but it gives me the greatest peace and comfort and even joy in the midst of all my suffering knowing that someone up there is hearing my prayers.<p>Keep the faith.<p>God is really in control. K<p>[ May 08, 2002: Message edited by: God is in Control ]</p>

I'm not sure that disaster to one is being helpful to another. . .<p>and it wouldn't happen if you didn't get divorced,<p>and i doubt that this will stand up in court. . .<p>so i would say,<p>"you are stretching the limits here of religion."<p>and i doubt this is true. . .

GIIC, I read over your message title and thought I need to read about getting one's prayers answered. I'm glad I stopped to read this even tho it didn't really answer your prayer for him to end his A. Perhaps its more about divine justice finally being given out, I do believe that people who do wrong eventually get what they deserve. Sometimes the one wronged is not around to see it, other times they are. I guess you were around. Lucky you!

WIFTY -<p>Well, I'm certainly not wishing disater on my ExH by any means, I love him and still want the restoration of my marriage if it can be done, but you know that a person has to hit the bottom before they turn to God and look up, so who's to say that isn't happening to my ExH? It's reminesent of what's in The Secrets of the Vine. K<p>[ May 08, 2002: Message edited by: God is in Control ]</p>

ok, I see the coincidence with Faustina - but medical malpractice because he had an affair. No way. Half the medical community would lose their license. This doesn't make sense. No attorney (I was married to one for 15 years and now work for four of them) would ever take a med mal case based on the doc's personal life. Doesn't add up.<p>Is there more to the story? Besides, if you aren't out to get him and really hope for the restoration of your relationship than you don't subscribe to the "what goes around comes around theory". Surely, you see your husband as a broken and battered child of God who needs mercy, not justice.?

GIIC,<p>I have had one of those kind of days today too!!!
Could you please go over to GQII and look at my post, I'd appreciate your input!!<p>Prayers are answered in many different ways and it is not meant for us to question the hows!!<p>Dawn<p> [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

Wiffle - <p>I think what probably really happened was that ExH did something to make the patient file a med mal case and then the attorney did a search on the internet - or the patient did a search on the internet of my ExH's name and the site came up with the info. about ExH.<p>It just bolsters their case in their mind because he's not the pillar of the community that he wants to portray himself as, and in a court case it may help to convince a jury that if he can do this horrible thing in his personal life then maybe he can do bad things in his professional life.<p>And I'm really not out to make him pay for what he's done - but after reading Secrets of the Vine I've learned that yes, God is merciful - but ExH has to ask for mercy and want to repent - which he hasn't done and that God will discipline us if we are going down the wrong path to "wake us up" and try to get us to turn back to God. And he is a God of Justice - it's just that He'd prefer to be merciful, but some people are just stubborn and well, when free will comes into play, God respects our decisions.<p>I just thought it was uncanny that I was directed to find the info. that ExH was worried about on the St. Faustina site right after I asked her and God for help. I don't know what it means really, just that I know that someone is hearing my prayers upstairs and looking out for me.<p>K

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Wiffle,
God Is in Control (K) knows the law, She is also an Attorney.<p>K, I understand what you said re: piller of community. Patients sometimes when they feel bad about filing a claim need that one thing to make them strong to fight. Obviously this patient was on the fence about wether to pursue a Med Mal claim and your husband. His personal life was his deciding factor. NOW would he win based on your H's running around. Of course not. But if your husband a medical error during this stressful time, wether it be a factor or not, it can be brought up. The patient has to have some sort a claim, that has NOTHING to do with you or your marriage.<p>Good Luck, I am glad you are finding strength.
Remember K you are a beautiful intelligent woman and an incrediable mother. Happy Mothers Day

I didn't mean to imply that K didn't know the law. As a matter of fact, I seem to remember now her talking about being an attorney herself. I just meant the same thing you said, that there had to be more to it than simply his private life.<p>I also think skye has a good point. Maybe God is giving K an opportunity to exhibit kindness and mercy and love through this.

Wiffle- <p>I think you're right. I'm really working on "loving your enemy" right now. <p> It's really hard to Plan A when the other person is not being nice and showing love toward you. I am trying my hardest to learn how to love my ExH through all of this while still making sure that I am changing for the better and still protecting myself and the kids.<p>Life is a journey and learning good relationship and communicaiton skills is not as easy as it looks, but I'm trying - I have been since I found MB. And the up side is that I know that my efforts will help me have better relationships with everyone and not just the ExH. <p>K