Well everyone I gave it my best try and tomorrow is the day I go to court for my final hearing.
For an update, H left Nov. 99 and I filed Jan 2000, and it has taken this long to get it thru the courts. Of course I postponed it once and so did he, but I feel he never gave it much of a chance since he never moved back in and even kept moving further away...
So needless to say...finally it will be all over and I hope it will help me put closure to the end of this 31 year marriage. Actually I will get the divorce thru default, because he won't even come to the hearing.
I still wish we could have worked it out, but kinda tough when you are so far away and we have very little contact. I believe he is still in the mist of a big MLC and feel because of the choices he made, it will take him some time to recover. IN the meantime I have moved on, still attending school,our son is adjusting , he gave up on his dad long before I ever did.
There are days I do miss EX terribly, until I realize that person no longer exists...
Anyway to those going thru this, Passage of time doesn't make you forget...just gives you time to heal....
My best to all of you ...
Tyra

Tyra,<p>I'm sure you gave it your all. That's all you can do. Hopefully, you heal quickly and move on.<p>Good Luck<p>Dino

Tyra,

I am in the middle of a D that is following a close path to yours as well.

I filed for D as well, soon after finding out about stbxw's multiple affairs. Her coming and going, time and time again.

Had 23 yrs.invested, last 2 were pure hell.

Still love my wife, don't know why... but I know I can't stay with her any longer.
So went ahead and filed.
she was a no show for the preliminary, and it will probably continue that way to the final hearing.

No one has heard from her in over a month.

I understand your feelings, after 33 years, it is something that will probably take time to get over. I know it will be for me.

Wallace