Unfortunately things are not improving, The wife still told me as of last night that she plans on filing soon. She tells me that she wants to do whatever is best for the kids and not destroy me financially. I don't know what to believe. My plan "a" seemed to be to pushy from the wifes standpoint, she thinks I am kissing up way too much. Guess the flowers and poems were too much. Another LB occurred last night. I had told my tennant last week about her asking for a divorce and his son overheard the conversation (big mistake). Anyway, he proceeded to tell my kids on the school bus that we are getting a divorce. Mind you nothing was yet to be discussed with my kids about anything. in Addition the tennants kid told my kids that thier mother was sleeping around with the twenty three year old. This infuriated the wife as now she thinks that her name is slandered all over our little town. I never said that to my tennant but did express that she had feelings for the twenty three year old. I screwed up big time telling my tennant anything I guess. No cleaning up this one. The wife also told me that the reason tshe is not having sex with me is becasue her feeling are just not there for me in that way, but somehow she let me have a quicky today [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/confused.gif" border="0[/img] . She told me that I have not been very attractive to her lately , too needy, crowding her too much and I need to give her space. What do you guys think about that? I guess I have not been very confident in myself lately seeing all that has been going on. It is hard to seem cheery and confident knowing that some time in the near future she is going to file on me. I aplogized to her for what happened to the kids, them finding out about a pending divorce and all. Dont' know what to do at this point in time. Any suggestions would be appreciated... Thanks

Bump,
Is there anyone that has ny advice for me. I really could use any suggestions at this point...

HB, say I know its hard, but to have those quickies says a lot with her...keep that door open as long as you can, she's confused, I remember when my wife was at that point 1 year ago talking crazy, now she says she didn't try to do none of it, though if she was an addict...Hang in there your wife still finds you attractive, she's in an Illusion right now..don't take the negative remarks from her as facts..

Thanks everlasting,
I think the quickies say allot too, but her words cut me deep. I have been walikng around on eggshells lately, don't like it one bit.