I suffer from the green-eyed monster. I've<BR>tried not to be jealous, but I'm suspicious<BR>of everyone my husband talks to or is in<BR>contact with. When we first got together he<BR>told me he had an affair in his previous<BR>marriage. He also told me that he'd been involved in a threesome with his ex-wife and<BR>her best friend and that he had 'times' alone<BR>with the best friend. I wish I could let this<BR>go as the past, but I can't seem to. Lately<BR>I've noticed him looking at other women and<BR>although I don't say anything I feel sick with suspicion. I emotionally distance myself from him and ofcourse he doesn't know what's going on inside me so he gets frustrated and angry. To him the past is the past- it's forgotten, but not so with me. I have trust issue problems due to an abusive<BR>childhood and first marriage so this only compounds my problem. Has any one successfully slain the 'green-eyed monster"?<BR>If so your advice would be most welcome.<P>------------------<BR>SDV

Sophi,<P>The abuse from your childhood and your previous maariage will destoy this marriage too if you do not get help with this problem. You do not mention that you have any current reasons to distrust your H. If you knew about your H infidelities that are in the past and did not involve you and you still married him, it is not fair to put any of this on him now. Pleas get some professional help. Dr. Harley does maariage counseling over the phone but you may need a different kind of help. Perhaps Dr. Harley or an associate could recommend a counselor to help with your past hurts. I would just bet that your H would go with you to counseling! Being involved in the counseling may help your H avoid causing suspicions inadvertantly. <P>Mud