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I'm a very analytical person and I am wondering what my feelings might really mean. My H and I are both 2nd marriage each with children from previous marriages and now a 6 mth old together. Our 6 years together have had ups & downs and 1.5 years ago H had a brief A. Well tonight we have had the D discussion for the first time in over a year. Surprising that we are both Ok with it and not very emotional. For over a year now there would never be that "making up sex" or anything like it, we would just resolve it or agree to disagree. We have not been able to get away and have time together since baby was born but we have spent a lot of together time at home (wondering when the baby might wake up). I'm trying to decide if my lack of emotion is because this is really the right thing, maybe it's been threatened so much it doesn't really sink in, am I holding back emotionally (withdrawal)? Any thoughts?
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Really not enough info but If you're on your 2nd marriage and pondering ending it, then you are definitly facing your 3rd or going back to your 1st marriage possibly?...I'd stop and ask, what happen in #1, what happing in #2, will the same thing happen in #3...Read material on this site, get his needs, her needs or what is recommended from others...
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thanks for your reply. The one thing that I am certain of is that there will not be a 3rd marriage for a very long time. After all the trials of trying to put a stepfamily together I agree with Dr. Laura that when you are a single parent you need to focus on your kids and wait until they are grown up to start a new relationship. I spent 4 years on my own between 1st marriage and meeting second husband. I was quite content on my own but always wanted to have a real family. Back then I still believed in fairy tales. 1st marriage was all wrong. He was doing drugs but quit because he loved me too much to lose me. After our divorce he went on and remarried and is still doing drugs. I was insecure when I married the first time. This time we just can't agree on stepparenting. We both have issues and I am attempting to deal with mine but I don't sense that my H will even acknowledge that he has issues. I don't think we communicate effectively.
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