You can get more information about my situation in the thread titled "Is There Any Hope". <p>Tonight I went to my son's baseball practice and sat by my WW. We just had small talk for about an hour and then I heard a loud motorcycle up the hill on the street. Of course...it was the OM. He sat up on the hill, about 50 yards from us and she then left me without saying anything and ran over to sit by him. He took his coat off and put it around her and then sat there with his arm on her leg. They began playing around with each other, i.e. punching each other playfully and stuff like that. You know, considering she's still M to me, I just don't see how you do this in front of people we know and in front of our son. I also don't understand how she can humiliate me like that. She's also been asking for copies of old tax records so that she can begin the process of qualifying for the home they plan on building together. I know a lot of you say the fog will clear but I honestly can't see it happening. They are just so "into" each other it's sickening. <p>I'm handling this pretty well and just focusing on making the kids and my life happy...which believe it or not I'm finding a lot of success with. The divorce is scheduled for 8/21, and I'm no longer planning on trying to delay it. I figure why delay the inevitable.

djw - <p>I don't know how people can disassociate themselves like that except that my XH is doing it too - last Sunday he just stood in front of our whole church at our child's baptism and promised to raise our child as a Catholic by not only words but by HIS EXAMPLE by living the Catholic faith. No one could believe that he could say that and then still do what he is doing. <p>When were married, earlier this year, he lived with OW, and I don't see it so much as the BS being humiliated as it is the WS being humiliated - it's just that the WS is in such fog that they don't know that they are humiliating themselves.<p>I read a book Forgiven Forever by Joe Beam - he's minister that now runs Family Dynamics(www.familydynamics.org) and espouses the MB principles, but he had an addiction, divorced his wife and it took him 3 years before he came to his senses and now has remarried his wife and has this ministry for couples, anyway, he wrote this book about his experiences and such and if I remember correctly he believes that something isn't connecting in the mind of the WS. Their conscience basically isn't kicking in and until it does, they are in the fog. Interesting read, and I need to read it again. Helps to understand mind of WS, and anyone with an addiction.<p>I guess this is just one of the great misteries of life. K

You have great patience my friend, and I respect that.<p>I, on the other hand would of had to do one of two things.<p>1. Get up and leave, which I realize was a difficult thing to do.<p>2. I would of gone over there and knocked the sh** out of him. (I don't recommend this one, but it sure would of felt good after it was over).

Just being truthful, and I expect to be flamed for that last statement... but I couldn't resist.<p>Wallace

I would have walked up, shook his hand and wished him good luck. He's gonna need it. [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img]

Raysofhope,<p>I like that one.<p>If ever I'm in that postion... that is exactly what I'm going to do.<p>Thanks!<p>Wallace

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Raysofhope:
<strong>I would have walked up, shook his hand and wished him good luck. He's gonna need it. [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] </strong><hr></blockquote><p>When my x and loverboy slithered into daylight (about a month after the divorce was final), I first saw him at my youngest daughter's soccer game. He was very nervous. I shook his hand and said "The best man won."<p>Some days I wonder if he'll ever figure out that I was referring to me, not him.

Raysofhope & O2bsane, I like your suggestions. Maybe I'll use them at some point. <p>At the practice Tuesday we were talking and I told her how surprised I was that so many people were out at a restaurant I went to Monday evening. I said I didn't know that many people went out on Monday nights. She replied as sarcastically as possible, some people have a life. I responded to her that people with children are usually home with them and their family instead of being out. She didn't respond. She never showed at practice tonight and my daughter asked her why she wasn't there. Her response was she forgot about it. It's so strange to see her act the way she's acting. I swear she'd have been the last person in the world I would have expected these actions from.