For those of you who don't know, my X is moving in with her boy toy. As if that's not bad enough she wants to further disrupt the children by making them switch schools, again. Since we have joint custody, we must mediate before bringing anything to court. AND since we gonna discuss one thing I figure why not discuss everything that has been bothering me.<p>1. School
2. Transportation Plan
3. Holiday Schedule
4. Parenting Plan
5. Child Support
6. Cost Sharing<p>You know I thought that I knew quite a bit about divorce until I've had to live with the results for the last year. There are so many things that just aren't thought through or spelled out enough that lead to conflict.<p>I see the chances of us agreeing as extremely slim and feel that we are heading for the trial we never had.<p>Please keep me and my girls in your prayers.

I too am heading back to court to make a few minor - ok major adjustments to my interim agreements regarding child custody, support and spousal support. <p>You never know enough going through it the first time. Good luck with the mediation. Maybe the court will order mediation for us too - although
my XH swears he will never go through a mediator- it's jis way or the high way. That's why we're going back to court.<p>I liked the "live long and prosper" response for DanaB. It makes me wonder what I'm going to do with all of the Star Trek Next Generation toys and action figures that I've got in boxes in my closet that XH and I collected when we first got married. Maybe they'll make me a mint one day - I'd better make sure I get them in the property settlement. <p>Good Luck, and don't doubt your good instincts - you're the one with the best interest of everyone at heart - remember that. K

You and your girls have had a reserved spot on my prayer list for a while now. Thanks for being a fine Christian example for us all and especially those of us with children. You're a great Dad!<p>Thinking of you! <p>PP

Praying for Bill tonight!!!

LostHusband:<p>Sorry your going through all this again..and I'm sorry the girls are too...<p>You called 'him' her boy toy...by looking at the age difference doesn't sound much like that..
maybe he's having the MLC and taking her along for the ride..sounds more like a 'father' figure than a 'partner'..someone to support her and the girls where she doesn't need to face responsibilities..<p>makes me sad..

Hi (((((Bill)))))!<p>I've been wondering how things are down south.<p>"we are heading for the trial we never had." Maybe in the long run this would be a good thing. If the
Kansas courts are as conservative as you've said they are, I'm curious to what a judge would say to
cohabitation. (the direct ripple affect of #1 through #6 of your concerns)<p>Hang tough and please know I'm pulling for your girls! This ol' saying is the guiding light: "in the
best interest of the children".<p>Gayle

Bill...<p>You're going to mediation and not to court? That's a new thing! Okay, well, I'm thinking of you... hope things go well. Sorry I haven't been around so much... will touch base more often.<p>Take care,<p>Nicole

Thanks y'all for your thoughts, hugs, prayers, and replies.<p>Yes, in the state of Kansas, you are required to mediate any disagreement prior to any court action. I'm preparing for this just as if it were a trial but sadly I do believe that my X will fight just to fight.<p>I really do believe that even in our conservative court system, the information that I have will be enough to "win" a court case. But then again, at this point there are no winners.<p>Thanks