Just in the last week I have started to feel an inner peace that I have never known. My xh walked out last summer and left me and our two young boys and our D was final January of this year. There was a peace in our environment within a month after my xh left us but now I feel like I am starting to really heal inside.....the anger is really subsiding and that it such a wonderful feeling.<p>My xh is getting married this summer or so he says. I found out about this a few months ago and I have been dealing with this pain and hurt head on and I even feel like I am getting over this too. I am really starting to see a brighter, more positive future for me and my children. That is so wonderful to be able to say and see for myself.<p>Everything in my life since my xh walked out has seemed to work out for the best. I got a new job with more pay, I got a new car with warranty and an awesome deal on it, I am moving very soon to my own home with my children (a home we can call our own with a fresh start), I am going back to school to get my degree (should graduate next year), I am enjoying single life very, very much. There have been ups and downs but after my xh walked out I gave it ALL to God and not once have I not been able to get through anything. I am walking in the right direction because everytime I turn around another door opens. What an awesome feeling! <p>My children are doing very well and I watch them very closely for any signs that they might not be handling all of this very well. We talk about everything and I know for a fact that this D has brought peace to my children. They observed too much...........my xh was verbally, emotionally and mentally abusive to me and even to the children. They act differently now, they seem to exhibit a freedom they never felt they had. We were always so careful around my xh, what we said, what we did, how we approached him. I believe my children are also feeding off of my behavior, I am so much more happier. I feel free, I am not stressed out all of the time, I am even healthier now than I ever have been. Stress does make you sick!!!!<p>I have come to the point now where I am having to tell my family members and friends to stop worrying about me, I am OK. Everyone is so worried about what my xh might do or might not do (paying child support, child visitations, etc.). I am the one telling them that worrying about what might or might not happen is not going to get any of us anywhere. I am taking one day at a time and I am leaving it all in God's hands. He has brought me and my children to where I am today and he will lead me and my children to where we need to go in the future.<p>I have set my boundaries with my xh and I am staying in them because it is better for me and my children and I can see that with my own eyes.<p>I am finally moving on......life is way too short and my children are so young......I am living for me and my children. I am slowly building our future and it feels really good.<p>Thanks to all for your support!<p>Kathy

Whew, I am posting on my post. <p>I just read what I posted and I have tears of happiness in my eyes. Every word I typed I actually feel! <p>Wow! I really am healing! I will never forget the pain, the hurt and the overwhelming sadness when my xh left but I am just letting everyone know that I got through it and I am still dealing with some of it but it DOES get better. There is peace and there is happiness after divorce. I am one of those that when all of this happened I couldn't fathom this point but I am here and you will get here too. <p>Thanks again,
Kathy

Kathy,
Glad to hear things are turning around for you. God Bless!<p>Bob

Hi Kathy, I'm happy for you, keep up the great work....Thats what we need here some praise reports...We are not ALL defeated and will not be...We may have been put down and hit with emotional blows, but that don't mean life is over....<p>We can stand up and face the challenge...so what if we have our issues, aren't we working on them?? who's perfect anyway??? WS's and x's don't have it together, look at them [ really take at look at them, they are messed up people!!] who are we to exalt a human being that lost their morals and yet yearning for them to love us.....sure we've been rejected and counted as low scum in there eyes...but who's really doing low life scum things???<p>But this day we declare marriagebuilers partners are special people with a pupose....we may have been down but not out we are valuable and well needed, you are a reward to somebodys life....

That's a great post Everlasting!

You made my day with that one.

Thanks for the uplift!

Wallace