History: Marriage of 9 years, both in mid 30s, step son from prior marriage never adopted (wife won't let me). Both of us are on our second marriage, we've known eachother all of our lives (kindergarten on).<P>Dilemma: Approximately annually my wife falls out of love with me and out of touch with her emotional well being. The majority of the incidents include sexual affairs with much younger boys and once another woman. I forgive and move on with the relationship, mostly because of my son. Now I'm in the cycle all over again. My wife just wants my financial resources and absolutely refuses any professional help.<P>Reader Request: I want to end the cycle of torment as I'm a committed husband and father. Is this a lost cause? I want my son in my life (10+ years now) and I don't want to provide my wife any financial resources as she's moving out for the umpteenth time. Why can't I get past the moral feeling of obligation? Have I been investing in penny stock with no hope of big returns? <P>I'm particularly interested in responses from similar households and not opinions based on an individuals feelings. I need to make some hard choices and I want to do that with real information.

Since I'm not in your situation, I'll offer no advice. Just wanted to let you know I read your post, and am thinking of you.<P>BTW, you would likely have your post seen/read by a lot more folks if it was posted under the General Questions area on the Infidelity board...maybe someone who has been in your shoes could then respond.<P>Best wishes!