Long story. Been married 15 years. Last year husband moved to another city for a job, I stayed where we were to get my daughter thru senior yr. Intent was that I move up in the summer. No job for me in the new city so I joined a locum traveling company, who posted me in various places to work. Would work few weeks, come home for short time. All of a sudden, in November, he started to act strange and I recognized the fact that he was involved with a girl from his work, denied it of course. He was very insistent that I continue to work out of town. My physical and emotional health suffered a lot. I hated being away from our new "dream" home and particularly resented the fact that he was taking advantage of the situation. I think she met his "emotional need" for affection, not like I had much of a chance to show him a lot, being away. In February, I came home to try and resolve this rift between us. Says he doesn't love me anymore, don't make him happy and he wants me to leave the house, the town and "get on with my own life" so that he can get on with his. I don't want to be by myself. The past 15 years of my life have revolved around him, I love him, it would be easier if I didn't. We still have good sex, sleep together, (at my request because I don't want to be alone). He refuses to see anybody, says it is over and nothing will change that. He still denies his feelings for this girl. He is very careful about everything as he knows that his job could be in jeopardy if the truth were known. Everyone knows that I have been working out of town, and that Gary moved up here before I did. I am devastated, heartbroken, but still want to make it work. He thinks he can just fill out the "quickie" divorce papers he picked up at the courthouse and be rid of me just like that. And he truly believes that is all there is to it. Need some thoughts, and I have read all of the Basic Concepts and everything so I am well informed. He is a very selfish, controlling person and I have always done things the way he wanted them done. I don't want to go away and work until we have something resolved, but will have to soon as finances are running out. He thought that I was going to be leaving by this weekend as I am writing an exam in another city and he thought I would just be staying there. How easy he wants it to be. HELP