found a used one titled You and your husbands mid life crisis, it was great, but is based on a christian Husbands life that was a non-cheater before hitting this age group. Book was printed in the early 80s I would like a updated book to read. We live 45 miles from the nearest bookstore. know what my STBX was going thur, but not sure if we could have made it, MOW would not leave him alone. Our son is talking more before he didnt want to talk about dad & him leaving us. I was mad that H would take MOW & her kids out on the town, our son just sits at home playing computer games & went no where. Son told me that Dad does ask to take him places but he was too embarrass to be with dad because everyone knew about the D & the A, its a small town. This came out when I ask our son to have Dad find a church that the 2 of them can go to. Son has been telling kids in his class about dad & MOW, H blamed me for spreading A over town, rumors are still going on at her work place about them, MOW H was well liked befored A. Son has stated that he is scared of his dad? H is not violent, H just hasnt been there in 13 years and now h is trying too hard to be a dad. H beening too nice is what scares him. son stated he only wants to see his dad to get things out of him? the only reason son wants to see dad this sun is because the game his dad gave him doesnt work on our computer & he can play it on Dads, son is asking me for a new computer so he doesnt have to go to Dad's house. I feel like my son is having a crisis. Son just turned 13. anyone having problems with teens? We dont talk about H at home, nothing is bad said about him. our son has told me that H does make nasty comments about me to him, a few times dad has slipped up & said he hated me. our son knows what our life & marriage was like before MOW, the lies need to stop, its only hurting our son.