Ok here goes, I've been reading and reading and feel I may get some good feedback telling me I'm crazy to feel the way I do. I've been married to my H for 4 years. I dated him for 3, married someone else for 3 who cheated on me for 1 1/2 years of that, divorced him and got back with my now Husband and them married him. (a little history).<p>Heres the problem:<p>When we got married he new the horrible situation I got myself into marrying the other man and what all happened and he promised me he would never give me any reason to doubt his love or intentions with/for me. <p>Last year we were opening a restaurant and a few days before we opened a friend called and his truck was stuck in the sand (I know this part is true). Long story short he came home 6 hours later 4 AM drunk and without my Suburban (which had the winch)<p>Of course he was in no condition for me to ask any questions so my mind spent hours wondering. I was angry my car was missing so I walked to the restauant and there it was(at 4 am). Next I figured he and his friends were sitting at the rest. drinking all the beer I ordered for opening day and to find out I called the alarm company to find out what time the alarm was set. It was set at 2:55. So now what? Where was he for that last hour??? and how did he get home???
So--I decided to look at the cell phone to see what calls were made. (ok a little more history)
There was this girl (P) who he ran around with years ago that just went through a divorce. He wanted me to meet her so when I had some friends come to town we all got together to have dinner and go out. As we are going to the store (6 of us) we go to get in MY car with my H driving and this girl jumps in the front seat!!!!! I was not a happy camper. My friends looked at me like arent you going to say something??? I just got in the very back seat of my suburban. My husband turned around and looked at me and I made this face.. he knew what I was thinking. He said "There is nothing going on between P and I" She just looked at him and smiled, never turned around and looked at me OOOO I was hot but did nothing at the time. We went on to enjoy the evening but later told my H I was not comfortable with her or with him having anything to do with her. She kept calling my house and pretending to forget my name etc. He respected my wishes and did not (from what I know) speak to her or see her. OK
So that night i checked the cell phone the last call made was to her at 2:45 am and the alarm was set at 2:55 am and to this day he cannot account for his whereabouts for that last hour.(so he says)
I cannot get past this no matter how many times we discuss it. Being cheated on in the past really screwed me up and now he to has left room for me to doubt him. My heart tells me he wouldn't cheat on me but I just cant let it go.
Someone please give me some help here, Im afraid if nothing happened and I keep harping on it I will push him away and eventually something might.
P.S. Whenever we see P now (its been a year) she practically runs away. I confronted her once and she denied it (of course) but I felt at the time she deserved to know why I did not like her. (We live in a very small town, very hard to avoid people.)

Ok A....You ran possible OW off and she can't face you, now you have room to deal with husband...I'm curious of the history, <p>Quote:
I cannot get past this no matter how many times we discuss it. Being cheated on in the past really screwed me up and now he has left room for me to doubt him. My heart tells me he wouldn't cheat on me but I just cant let it go.<p>From this comment, trust in the marriage has to be built and you being secure within yourself has to happen. You said OM cheated on you from previous marriage...Ask yourself this " What would it take for you to heal" in the area of trust?...Everybody gets jealous were human, when we been violated we get over-sensitive to things...<p>I don't know if your H had a fling with P...but most of all I'd read info on this marriagebuilders site and get his needs, her needs and study it together....Trust takes time and it has to be worked at...seeing you been through a lot, it appears your current marriage needs a little work but the issues are resolvable, PS: you're not crazy, you're fine... you just need a little respect.

I guess you could say I am overly sensitive, but my H, as wonderful as he may be, has a lot of faults(as we all do) but the major one is he tends to tell a lot of little white lies. His mom says he's been that way since he could talk. I can usually see right through them but at times when I cant and then find out the truth it just creates more doubt. I tend to think he is afraid of making me mad by telling me the truth but like I said he has always been that way. My problem is I rarely lie so it scares me that if he lies about the small stupid stuff why not the big???
P.S. He is also a fisherman, its just their nature lol [img]images/icons/confused.gif" border="0[/img]

Any one else with input????