I posted this to invite those that watch this board but never post that are strangers to this board, yet you may be hurting but afraid to expose your pain for fear of embarrasment. We want you to open up and tell your hurt or pain. This is just a invitation that you don't have to be embarrarsed or deemed a failure because you have a problem, we all have problems thats why were here talking about it and not suffering in total silence, so relax its ok, you're not alone in your marriage issues. Your issues may not have nothing to do with you...Take care

Hello, I finially had enough courage to write this morning and beleive it or not just the thought of other people going threw what I am (sounds sick) but it is a relief. I now know that I am not alone. I live in Fl, thier is no such thing as legal sep. so im kinda stuck.<p>I have been away from my home for two weeks and it is killing me I feel very lost I have no friends and I have to start my life over I had to leave my home due to my husbands drug habits which came to a shock to me . one day I seen my husband the next day he was gone, I look back to see if any thing led up to this but I cannot find a single thing. for the past year all he told me was (I don't know) I finally came to the conclusion that its not my fault. I am still trying to save what is left of our marriage but he is lost and he dosnt think he has a problem I start alanon next week . and i will try to move on I know that is what is best for me. so thank you for all of your thoughts

copeing,<p>I jus joined this board due to WH's drug use. I also live in FL, but thought that there was legal separation? I have a call into my attorney. <p>This all seems so overwleming. My prayers go out for you.<p>God Bless,<p>D.

Sorry to see you guys go through this, its so painful but you will make it. I did'nt get married in FL but WS filed in FL, FL is a no fault State...meaning, if you decide to move out obtain seperate resident your considered legally seperated on the date moved out.....Get a divorce no questions asked...They give you the reason already typed out..you just check the box, your done.<p>Therefore as my WS/W did, have multiple affairs, move out, put OM in my place, have me pay money to support her and OM under the legal banner of CS and there you have it....FL is a mess...<p>
To copeing, don't beat yourself up, your H being on drugs is just as bad as feeling betrayed, only the person is on drugs[addiction] rather than OP like we all suffer here as BS's. It takes two to build a marriage he has to be willing to make it work therefore in the mean time "work on you" and become the happy person you feel good about...

E C
thank you for your thoughts. The Damage is done
I have spent the last year trying to figure out what went wrong. My H was totaly agenst every thing he has done . I have pleaded with him to talk to somebody I know he has to fail himself in order to see what he is doing, but sometimes I think thier is a way to help him fail just to open up his eyes that why I asked in my past postings if he was going threw a 1/4 life crises
he is only 27 I know he is very lost in himself
this is what I do not get.