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I was reading the three phases of marriage..intimacy (never had much), conflict (plenty)..and withdrawal. I'm in withdrawal and my husband is in conflict. After reading about it, I believe that I am emotionally divorced from him. I try not to LB but it's only to keep down the conflict.
I feel a little selfish for being in withdrawal after reading about infidelity and abuse that other people on here have gone through or are going through. You have real concerns and I feel for each of you.
Anyway, I thought it was interesting to read about the phases..but, sad to realize which one I'm in.
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I don't think its sad to identify your stage, but you need to decide what to do about it.
Dr. Harley suggests that "one person can bring the two of you together". (See the articles section).
These are great concepts if you decide to use them to repair your marriage.
It's your choice. If your H is still in the conflict stage, then he is still holding on to the marriage and may want to try to make it work.
Good Luck.
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