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My ex and I have been divorced for three months. We've been together for ten years, we have a six year old daughter together and two other children from his first marriage. We divorced because our relationship turned into a living hell, I left and I was the one who seeked the divorce. <p>That was my biggest mistake, I thought we needed time apart and divorce was the solution. Now three months after our divorced, I realize I'm still in love with him and I want to give it another try but he has moved on, he found someone else and he has made plans to move in with this person. <p>As of today everything has gotten more complicated because now he says he's in love with the both of us and he can't decide who he wants to be with. I can't understand how he moved on so quickly, I believe him when he tells me he still loves me, we are both afraid of what will happen if we get back together again. I don't know what to do, should I just let go. Does any of this make sense?
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Your husband is in a relationship called the "rebound"...Its jumping to a new relationship too soon without ever working on you first, all you can feel is that you have a need of love and because you're divorced you're free to date never to turn and look back, however when faced with the feelings of true love verses infactuation that presents a stuggle.......
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FeelTerrible,
I am in the middle of a messy D.as we speak right now. If my WS got herself together, and I mean completely, then I would entertain the idea of trying to start a new relationship with her.
IMO, If you believe that you could get your X back to the point of a successful (without OW) relationship, because it definitely sounds like their is deep emotions there, then I would pursue it, only after he has gotten rid of the OW completely... don't get caught up in the web of deceit, it will most probably hurt you again.
Your husband is indeed in a rebound relationship, just make sure it has ended, before you jump into a situation that may end up like it did the first time.
That's just my opinion, I could be wrong.
Wallace
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