I just got my final statement from my lawyer and it just makes me more angry at my exH than I was. First it was selling him the house, then the OW moving into my house and now I basically had to pay all this extra money to my lawyer for the house deal because exH didn't have a lawyer except for his mortgage closing. If I would have known all this I would have made him pay. This is ridiculous that I am the one paying. Now this stupid divorce has cost me well over $6000 and what did he pay.....only $2000. Where is the justice here? I didn't want the divorce but he wouldn't file and wouldn't stop it with the OW so now I am divorced, lost my house and feeling so dang mad I could spit.
I know that I should just let it go water under the bridge right? But I can't I just feel like he should pay a little and no he just sits there in his fantasy world with the OW in the house without a care in the world. My new saying...."life ain't fair, sh** happens and I have to deal with it. <p>When does it get better or will it ever get better? Where is the what comes around goes around. It just seems like I keep getting dealt the blows and he is free and clear of any consequences. <p>Sorry to rant but I feel awful right now.

Well, unfortunately, karma spans multiple lives... so, you might not be here when he gets his...<p>On the other hand, you could just be getting yours from a few lives ago [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] <p>all in all, all I can do is sympathize...

I am also looking for the answer to that question..."When does the anger stop?" I have been divorced for 1 1/2 years from my alcoholic adulterous husband and I still have to fight to control the disgust and contempt in my voice when I see him. He has already married his OW (one of several during our 12 year marriage)and doesn't miss a chance to let me know how wonderful his life is now. I am working on the forgiveness part of the recovery process but it seems to be taking longer this time than it did before. Hopefully, when the forgiveness comes than the anger will subside. I feel for you! Lisa

It takes time, at least in my case. I'm approaching 2.5 yrs and still get angry at x. It is more at her disregard for the kids that bugs me now.<p>Try "Rebuilding after the Relationship Ends" by Dr. Bruce Fisher. <p>You/we need to get over this anger before we enter another relationship because this left over anger will spoil the new relationship.