small town where no spousal support unless you were married 30yrs & never had a job, No COBRA insurance or you get it & you pay, NO way you can get spouse for adultery even if you have pictures, its the good old boy system. My attorney didnt even want to try, with pressure from me he did. I knew when I walked out the courtroom I only came away with COBRA & X paying because of my medical problems, when I got my papers 2 months later, I had COBRA, spousal support and wrote on our final papers was the "breakdown of our marriage was due largely to the husbands questionable conduct with a nurse employed at Atmore Hospital and the controversies arising out of his personal relationship with her". Its been worth the battle, it still states D because of incompatibility of temperament. called her H & told him that I have some papers for his D coming up this month. I knew that God wouldnt let this man destroy 2 marriages, mess up 4 small children lives. Ive changed my user name because of problems with X showing our son this site & then sitting him down questioning him about all my messages to marriage builders. I put x behind me, ready to go forward. Im at peace I dont hate him or love him anymore but ready to forgive him for what he did to our family. when I look at x all I see is a stranger who I didnt know, I dont want to live the rest of my life as a bitter old woman filled with hate & wondering what X is doing with MOW, Ive got my son & my new life to think about. God has given me a second chance at life & Im not letting X get to me or use me anymore.

Based on your post, I can envision what you are feeling.

I am in the middle of my D, and what you describe in your post is what I know I will feel, when it is all said and done with.

I am so sorry, and I wish you the best.

Wallace