Last week I found out that my wife is leaving me. I was devistated and cried like a child. She is in the process of moving out. We will no longer be sharing a home as of tomorrow. She is moving in with a guy who she has meet at Landmark Education and provides her with emotional support, at least that is what she sais. I am very said, disappointed in myself for getting this result in my relationship. I don't want to loose her. Is there hope to get her back and what can I do now to make a difference? Please help....

poss.....sorry to hear and feel your pain. The good news it has happened. Try this website www.rejoiceministries.org when you get a chance. Lots of great testimonies on restored relationships. I will be praying for you and you pray that God will restore your marriage.<p> love in christ<p> cajunky<p>[ June 05, 2002: Message edited by: cajunky ]</p>

Yes, there is hope to get her back but be prepared for a long process. You need to educate yourself and put together a Plan, most likely, Plan A.
Read everything here on this website, also suggest you read Surviving An Affair, you can order it at the bookstore here on this site. In addition, be sure not to love bust (LB), you are going through a very emotional time but do not do anything that will drive her closer to him like angry outburts when she tells you she is with him. You will also need to examine yourself and your marriage to determine why she is looking outside the marriage to get her EN (emotional needs)met. Plan A is about working on improving yourself and meeting her ENs so you will need to determine what ENs you were not meeting and what ENs the OP (other person) is meeting.
Other will give more advise, keep posting and reading, you have come to the right place.
Good luck,
Dave

Thanks for you comments. I feel so confused sometimes. Last Sunday we were still sleeping in the same bed and she took my hand and held it between us under the cover. I felt confusion and pain. I have decided to move out of the bedroom the next day and set-up camp inthe spare room. I told her that I need it to set up some boundaries to take care of myself. She said how do you know what you need right know, I said I'm listening my body and how I'm feeling. Then to-day I meet her per her request to sign a letter so that she can take me off her insurance (I have been self-employed. When I walked up to her she was very nice and smiled, the we proceeded to walk to the office building to meet a friend of hers who is a notary public. She grabed my hend and want it to hold it while we were walking. I pulled my hand out of her hand and told her that I need it to take care of myself right know and this hearts. Her response was: limitations, limitations...then her entire way of being changed to not wanting to be with me anymore. This is very confusing. What is she doing?...

possibility,

It appears that you should be trying to meet her W's EN's, not pushing her away.

Your in for the fight of your life if you want to keep your W around, and by not meeting her EN's (holding hands) it appears you are LB.

Start working on your PLan A as Dave had stated.

Stay Strong!

Wallace