I have read so many times to put the children first in a family. If the children were to be first in a home, they would have come first........ but they didn't. They marriage came first.<P>Children are the product of a marriage, not the reason for it. The guides, teachers, instructors, and disciplinarians of a home are the parents. CHILDREN ARE BORN TO LEAVE HOME. Or at least they should leave home at some point and start their own lives. <P>The marriage is the foundation, the roots, so to speak. The children are the vines that go out of the root and start their own foundations. Why do people continually put children first?????????? I guarantee that every home where the child is put before the marriage, the marriage will fail. <P>Why do you think you see on all these shows like Sally Jesse, Maury Povich, etc., all the kids being sent to boot camps to learn discipline, respect for theiri parents, respect for their homes, respect for authority? Because they've been told they're supposed to be first in the home and whatever they say goes, that's why.<P>The husband who demonstrates to his children that his wife has no more position than the kitchen table is not honoring his wife, nor his position in the home. A wife who dishonors her husband by teaching the children that they hold a greater importance in the home than the head of the home, is diminishing all honor and respect for the parental unit. Then the kids take over and do whatever they like. That's why so many children are having children. That's why there is no respect or level or authority being learned in the homes....... because the parents have handed over their authority and their marriage to their children.<P>I am a mother and a grandmother, but there isn't a child been born in this lifetime whose place is before the marriage. If you don't believe me, read what God says about it.<P>Katherine<BR>
