My story if you don't know... my wife has been seeing another man since about Aug. 2001. I found out about it in December '01... she denied it all until I caught her dropping him off at the airport (Jan. '02). I stayed. She then went on vacation with him for a week (Feb. '02)... she denied it. I have proof. I stayed. Then has to work in his city for one month...(they work for the same company in opposite cities) does not call me etc. for one month. She comes back. I stayed. She then tells me she wants her life back? And yes it did include me.... and now she is back to her old self,lying etc. I feel that this is her boss that she is seeing and was terrified it would end up a "conflict of interest" and he or she would lose their jobs. I am "garbage" again and have done everything for her. I have let her live in our house and have cooked her meals etc. I have done everything to save our marriage. I feel if she is not will work on our marriage I need to move on. I am 32 and do not have a child. I want a child very badly... but I will obviously have to wait for that day to come. I believe I have been patient enough and it is time for me to move on don't you... I plan to file tomorrow.<p>I don't want to do this but I know I have to. I love her and can't see myself living without her but it takes two to love.<p>Help me out someone.

Mr. Hurt.<p>Hard to know what to say without a bit more information, but from what you said in your post, it appears that you're looking for some suggestions as to what to do to get your M fixed, because you love your wife and would like her to be the person you married, once again. <p>Well, this site is full of all kinds of useful information. You should read the articles thoroughly and maybe a few of the books on surviving an affair before you decide to end your M. You may still want to do that after you've read, but you should at least make sure you've exhausted all the possibilities before you make that decision. Also, get counseling. For yourself at first, but for both you and your W if she is willing to go. <p>Remember that recovering from your spouse's affair is all about rebuilding YOU and your self-esteem, so that at the end of the process, you are a better companion for your W, or some other lucky woman if you should end up divorced.<p>Hang in there!