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Long journey - it's finally ending and I'm okay with it. I think. It's been a terrible two years, he's unwilling to change, can't take my questioning his morality anymore, won't stop his computer addiction (11p-7a), never comes to bed, has barely touched me in 2 years (our entire marriage), etc. Thankfully we have no children together. But, I'm upset nonetheless...I've given 3 years to this man who won't grow up, be responsible for anything, take care of himself - let alone me. Hopefully I'll feel better once it's finalized and time goes by.
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Hopeful,<p>Sorry it has come to this but I guess it's better to end after three years than after 10-15 or 18. And you did learn so many things about relationships, right? And what to look for in a guy next time? I know I did.<p>Goodluck.
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I know...I'm sorry too. It hurts, but I feel it is the right decision. How long can you beat your head against the wall trying to live in peace when it was never meant to be from the start? We are completely morally different and if one partner is too immature to handle real life, I don't see any way to make it work. I did certainly learn alot about myself and about relationships...I'll know not to marry the first man who says he loves me. To truly dig deep into who he is...not just trust what he says.
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It's sad, but remember that without this situation, many of us would not have found this site, or learned what it takes to make a good relationship the next time.
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hopeful >><p>I am in a similar situation as you - my H left me in October after only 14 months of marriage. I also, feel lucky that we have no children.<p>For me, it helps to count my blessings - no poor, innocent children to get mixed up in all of this. only 3 years you have invested in a wasted relationship. Trust me, I know it hurts to lose the one you love, you feel hurt, betrayed and angry. But when you start to heal you realise that you still have your life ahead of you and now you can start to live it.<p>Where are you from, hopefulgal? I will say a prayer for you.<p>A.
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I appreciate all of your thoughts - thanks. I am starting to feel this is actually going to be positive -- no more feeling rejected, being rejected, thinking about his problems/sins, wondering what's wrong with me that he doesn't want to be intimate with me, etc. I will be much happier and healthier (emotionally and physically) w/o him. I'm going to being exercising and lose weight and focus on myself and my D.<p>Avatar: I'm in Ohio. Thank you so much for your prayers.
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